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I was at a local bar and there was an older lady who is a regular there. She offers to buy my drinks and accepted it. FYI, I'm a straight woman into dudes. We had some conversations. She brings up how the men in her life and how they wronged her in some way including her father. She complained how her father never showed any loving affection towards her growing up. Then I commented my dad never did either but focused on the positive by saying he was always there for me and felt secure that he was around when I needed him. I'm one to really try not to dwell on the negatives in my past on do my best to focus on the positives. Am I bad "friend" for not caring to listen to it?
No, you should do/say/listen to what you want.
Don't accept "free" drinks, there are usually "strings" attached.
There's nothing more pathetic then regular bar flies drinking their sorrows away and sucking anyone and everyone they can down that depressing vortex. Bars have a huge ewww factor for me. I had to spend too many childhood hours in one watching my parents drink down that self destructive path.
You'll never catch me in one nor hanging with that mentality. How about going for a walk or a bike ride instead on sitting there on a bar stool instead HappyFarm34? Maybe it's time for some new scenery.
I was at a local bar and there was an older lady who is a regular there. She offers to buy my drinks and accepted it. FYI, I'm a straight woman into dudes. We had some conversations. She brings up how the men in her life and how they wronged her in some way including her father. She complained how her father never showed any loving affection towards her growing up. Then I commented my dad never did either but focused on the positive by saying he was always there for me and felt secure that he was around when I needed him. I'm one to really try not to dwell on the negatives in my past on do my best to focus on the positives. Am I bad "friend" for not caring to listen to it?
It was okay for her to pay for your drinks, but that wasn't "payment" enough for you to listen to her problems? Nice.
There's nothing more pathetic then regular bar flies drinking their sorrows away and sucking anyone and everyone they can down that depressing vortex. Bars have a huge ewww factor for me. I had to spend too many childhood hours in one watching my parents drink down that self destructive path.
You'll never catch me in one nor hanging with that mentality. How about going for a walk or a bike ride instead on sitting there on a bar stool instead HappyFarm34? Maybe it's time for some new scenery.
Much less likely to meet people that way. I live in a rural area. Who wants someone stopping them when they're on a walk/run/bike ride starting a conversation?
Much less likely to meet people that way. I live in a rural area. Who wants someone stopping them when they're on a walk/run/bike ride starting a conversation?
Lots of folks live in rural areas. Make different choices, volunteer, get involved or start a local group...i.e. book club, gardening, any number of possibilities.
Regardless where you live, how you choose to spend your time is a "choice".
quoting you "Who wants someone stopping them when they're on a walk/run/bike ride starting a conversation?"
IMO It is called being neighborly...give it a try.
There's nothing more pathetic then regular bar flies drinking their sorrows away and sucking anyone and everyone they can down that depressing vortex. Bars have a huge ewww factor for me. I had to spend too many childhood hours in one watching my parents drink down that self destructive path.
You'll never catch me in one nor hanging with that mentality. How about going for a walk or a bike ride instead on sitting there on a bar stool instead HappyFarm34? Maybe it's time for some new scenery.
Well I can think of one thing. Accepting drinks from someone and than whining about them talking to you.
A very simple "no thank you" would have nipped this in the bud.
Much less likely to meet people that way. I live in a rural area. Who wants someone stopping them when they're on a walk/run/bike ride starting a conversation?
How about going to a meet up group in your area? One showed up at the skating rink one Friday morning and there must have been around 35-40 healthy, active seniors. Some of them were in their 50's. I was talking to one and she said that you could be busy every day of the week doing something fun.
I think looking into something like that would yield far more positive results then sitting there watching "a regular" slowly self destruct and disappearing into a bottle. I know what that "regular" mentality is like. Please allow me to encourage you to broaden your horizons and meet up with people who are of a healthier mind and body. I'm not saying to never go there again, but I am saying that being a "regular" may not be the healthiest option for socializing.
(Ps Thank you all for the many reps from my previous post on this thread )
Yes, there's some popular meet-ups in my area. I should check them out again. So, are you saying most regulars at bars are self-destructing themselves?? And usually have a "drown their own sorrows" personality? Plus, it irks my nerves seeing people getting quite buzzed then driving back home. I only drink 2 beers then go home
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