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It can become a viscious cycle... Just as it's easier to get another job if you already have a job, it's easier to make friends if you already have friends... Assuming you WANT friends...
I haven't read through this whole thread but, the greatest of writers have thought through their work while alone. The greatest of Artists have done this alone. Just something to think about.
A nice man in our neighborhood seems to be alone quite often. I see him in public places on a regular basis and he is mostly alone. He walks around the neighborhood and is is alone and he lives by himself. My kids are always talking about him. They say he must be some type of weirdo because he is alone in public. I asked my son about that and they said that in school if you are seen all alone, you are viewed as a weirdo.
Do you think that people who are soon mostly alone in the adult world are viewed that way too? You may enjoy or like being alone but people assume something in wrong with you.
People are social creatures, so being alone all of the time is "weird" in that it is out of the norm, but I don't see it as being an automatic negative. I'm alone in my free time...and happy. I've never been happy being a part of the herd when it wasn't necessary. It's probably because of my independence.
Aristotle has a great quote on this:''He who is unable to live in society, or who has no need because he is sufficient for himself, must be either a beast or a god.''
There are so many reasons a person is alone. A person should not be judged by that.
This is exactly right, you never know a person's situation. Could be many things, many sad things, or maybe the person just likes to be alone. Maybe you could show your child to think of others, and show kindness. Maybe say hello and speak to the man instead of making an assumption or judging him. Take care.
There are different kinds of loners. You have a normal looking person with a laptop or inline skating, or reading in public. Then you see that weirdo drunk homeless dude rocking back and forth. Or the lady with 20 cats who's a hoarder. Or the peeping Tom across the hall who looks like he'll strangle you if speak to him. Severely mentally ill or addicts are often loners. Not all loners are mentally ill or addicts.
Just remember...........being alone and being lonely are not the same.
I was alone and fine..........but, I did marry.
In time I was alone and lonely...........he was with his drinking pals.
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