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Let's be real here. The reasons you don't date are complicated and have a lot to do with your emotional health, your childhood and your attitude. You have admitted as much.
As your mom, she knows this. Her questions are to get you to open up and talk it out because she thinks she can help and wants to.
Maybe she can, maybe she can't. But that's all it is. Nothing to get defensive about.
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Let's be real here. The reasons you don't date are complicated and have a lot to do with your emotional health, your childhood and your attitude. You have admitted as much.
As your mom, she knows this. Her questions are to get you to open up and talk it out because she thinks she can help and wants to.
Maybe she can, maybe she can't. But that's all it is. Nothing to get defensive about.
Really, I don't think someone with as many failed marriages as she has is in any position to give advice to someone with no relationship experience, with all due respect. My dating luck is something I'm going to be defensive about because I see people all around me having success and I can't do a damn thing for myself when it comes to this topic.
Really, I don't think someone with as many failed marriages as she has is in any position to give advice to someone with no relationship experience, with all due respect. My dating luck is something I'm going to be defensive about because I see people all around me having success and I can't do a damn thing for myself when it comes to this topic.
Well there you have it! You don't care what she thinks, so stop caring what she thinks!
Your envy and covetousness is more of a spiritual matter.
Really, I don't think someone with as many failed marriages as she has is in any position to give advice to someone with no relationship experience, with all due respect. My dating luck is something I'm going to be defensive about because I see people all around me having success and I can't do a damn thing for myself when it comes to this topic.
What steps have you taken to get dates?
Actually, maybe a better question is what qualities do you have that would make a woman want to date you?
Really, I don't think someone with as many failed marriages as she has is in any position to give advice to someone with no relationship experience, with all due respect. My dating luck is something I'm going to be defensive about because I see people all around me having success and I can't do a damn thing for myself when it comes to this topic.
More than likely your mom and the way she raised you have a big impact on your lack of dating success. You are right. She's the last one who should be giving you advice or asking about what is going on with you.
When you combine her nosiness with your affairs with her compulsion to share her messed up relationship life with you, it equals a big mess of no boundaries
I'm sorry you have had to grow up with a mother like this. Good for you though for starting to get a sense of what your boundaries are and how to start getting to the point where you can start kicking her out of your business.
Last edited by Just A Guy; 02-15-2016 at 03:13 PM..
Late 20's? Not a problem. I just had a conversation with a close friend. She has 2 daughters living in NYC, I have 2 sons. Her daughters are 31 and 28, and although they have boyfriends, are nowhere close to marriage. It bugs her. I figured that out when she said I was lucky to be in the south where kids marry young. Well, at 25 and 23, my boys are not looking to settle down anytime soon. Thank goodness.
I think a relationship drought is only a problem if it bothers the one going through it.
More than likely your mom and the way she raised you have a big impact on your lack of dating success. You are right. She's the last one who should be giving you advice or asking about what is going on with you.
When you combine her nosiness with your affairs with her compulsion to share her messed up relationship life with you, it equals a big mess of no boundaries
I'm sorry you have had to grow up with a mother like this. Good for you though for starting to get a sense of what your boundaries are and how to start getting to the point where you can start kicking her out of your business.
It reads like she just has his best intentions at heart and just enquiring like most mums would do with their son.
Has diss posted previous issues with his mum? To make you question his upbringing?. I'm not having ago mate but genuinely don't understand where all that has come from.
Sorry to hear that. I think you should just be honest, just basically tell her what you wrote in your OP. You're not batting for the other team etc etc etc.
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