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"Just livin' day by day"
(set 22 days ago)
Location: USA
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Originally Posted by EmoLair
Why waste brain space on this?
So it is dysfunctional....When any of you broke up with your SO, did you remain friends with the ex's family by doing things with them? I have never been in a relationship so I can't speak from experience. I can say I was close to one of my brother's ex-girlfriends he dated several years & had been through a lot together. When they split, we both moved on.
So it is dysfunctional....When any of you broke up with your SO, did you remain friends with the ex's family by doing things with them? I have never been in a relationship so I can't speak from experience. I can say I was close to one of my brother's ex-girlfriends he dated several years & had been through a lot together. When they split, we both moved on.
If the former S/O and the family are okay with his presence, why does it matter to you if it's functional/dysfunctional? Does it bother you that much when you're there? Just leave when he shows up.
So it is dysfunctional....When any of you broke up with your SO, did you remain friends with the ex's family by doing things with them? I have never been in a relationship so I can't speak from experience. I can say I was close to one of my brother's ex-girlfriends he dated several years & had been through a lot together. When they split, we both moved on.
Healthy and functional- Giving a recovering addict support by being there for him or her, by having no substance use occurring (this includes alcohol) during that person's visit, and by making sure there is no enabling, co-dependent behavior with the addict.
Dysfunctional- enabling an addict to remain addicted to a substance (in this case alcohol) by using that substance with him or her or allowing the use of that substance when in the company of the addict.
The guy is not on the road to recovery and getting his life in order. He would not be drinking if that was the case. He is on the road to eventually (if not already) going back to his substance of choice.
So it is dysfunctional....When any of you broke up with your SO, did you remain friends with the ex's family by doing things with them? I have never been in a relationship so I can't speak from experience. I can say I was close to one of my brother's ex-girlfriends he dated several years & had been through a lot together. When they split, we both moved on.
No. It is inappropriate no matter how nice they are. Also, if you have a new partner, what then?
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"Just livin' day by day"
(set 22 days ago)
Location: USA
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It would be much easier to go to an al-non meeting to talk. Since I can't hear well, it would be a waste of my time participating in a group to get a better understanding of what's functional or dysfunctional.
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