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3. I guess people on Citydata don't assume a female can be just as witty or funny as a man (on my username). It's quite sad actually.
Your username is not witty or funny, just strange. That is why people mentioned it. Not understanding witty or funny may be one of your problems meeting people.
Your username is not witty or funny, just strange. That is why people mentioned it. Not understanding witty or funny may be one of your problems meeting people.
OP, I'm just a few years older than you (34), so I'm in your same age bracket.
I think what you are describing is pretty common. In my 20's I had a a few close friends, and a larger group of people that I could count as friends. As we got a little older these friendships waned. This was mostly due to the predictable reasons; people moved, got married, had kids, etc. When these things happen there is simply less time to focus on friendships. I myself am married with children. The friends I still see the most are others in the same situation. I think this is because it is most convenient for all parties. The kids can amuse each other, and each couple understands why the other needs to be home at a relatively early hour.
In addition to all of that, I think we tend to get set in our ways as we grow a little older. I probably haven't made a new friendship since my mid-20s. I became pretty close to a group I worked with then and I still consider them friends even though we no longer work together. Again, they are now in the same life stage as me. At this point in my life I don't have a lot of interest in new friends. This is simply because I'm busy all of the time and when I have free time I just want to veg out at home.
I suspect this may be the situation with you. Your old friends are just in a different life stage. It is probably nothing against you.
I have heard from older coworkers that people tend to have a renaissance and go out more once their kids are older. So, either wait it out or find a partner (j/k).
Your username is not witty or funny, just strange. That is why people mentioned it. Not understanding witty or funny may be one of your problems meeting people.
i think its funny... whats strange to me is people attacking the OP and focusing on things like username and "moving" over the actual topic, which is actually a pretty interesting topic these days.
I remember in HS when you liked a girl you had to actually get up the nerve to call her, and not just on her mobile, but on the housephone!...lol. which was often picked up by her parents who kinda interviewed you and screened you.
Now everything is text, makes you wonder how these kids will grow up socially.
Your username is not witty or funny, just strange. That is why people mentioned it. Not understanding witty or funny may be one of your problems meeting people.
So you don't know anything about this person, really, other than their user name. So that's what you critique. Well if that's all you have to go by...
Really, people can wind up friendless for many reasons that have nothing to do with their personal character. In fact, the biggest jerks I know seem to have very active social lives and lots of people they call "friends". I really do not know why that is, but it's just something I've observed. I think aggressive, jerky people tend to attract more admirers for whatever reason.
I remember in HS when you liked a girl you had to actually get up the nerve to call her, and not just on her mobile, but on the housephone!...lol. which was often picked up by her parents who kinda interviewed you and screened you.
Now everything is text, makes you wonder how these kids will grow up socially.
My nephew doesn't communicate with anyone at all unless it's via text. And yes, is somewhat socially stunted. He refuses to talk on the phone or in person. But he sends texts all day and all night long.
In fact, the biggest jerks I know seem to have very active social lives and lots of people they call "friends". I really do not know why that is, but it's just something I've observed. I think aggressive, jerky people tend to attract more admirers for whatever reason.
That's true! In an ideal world, people with nasty personalities and bad tempers would be doomed to spend the rest of their lives all alone. Instead, they always seem to have lots friends/followers. For some strange reason, people seem to be attracted to those jerk types.
My nephew doesn't communicate with anyone at all unless it's via text. And yes, is somewhat socially stunted. He refuses to talk on the phone or in person. But he sends texts all day and all night long.
What's his plan for going on a job interview? Or is the plan to live with mommy till he's 40?
i think its funny... whats strange to me is people attacking the OP and focusing on things like username and "moving" over the actual topic, which is actually a pretty interesting topic these days.
I remember in HS when you liked a girl you had to actually get up the nerve to call her, and not just on her mobile, but on the housephone!...lol. which was often picked up by her parents who kinda interviewed you and screened you.
Now everything is text, makes you wonder how these kids will grow up socially.
It is focusing on the topic. Isn't the question why she doesn't have friends? Thinking things are funny when they aren't and expecting people to help you do things that most people don't ask others to do will make it harder to find friends. It did not have to be moving. If she said paint or put in a lawn the replies would have been the same.
It is focusing on the topic. Isn't the question why she doesn't have friends? Thinking things are funny when they aren't and expecting people to help you do things that most people don't ask others to do will make it harder to find friends. It did not have to be moving. If she said paint or put in a lawn the replies would have been the same.
Don't know if this is the OP but nothing worse than a friend who calls you only when they need something from you.
If you want friends, you have to get out there and make connections, not sit passively, waiting for people to come to you.
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For some strange reason, people seem to be attracted to those jerk types.
