Girl keeps asking for favors (girlfriend, female, male, deleted)
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There is this girl my np clinical group. From the beginning I have been friendly but neutral with her as I have been with my other female classmates. On 2 occasions now she asked for my lecture recordings, justifying her request by "I was sitting far", "I deleted it on accident", "I arrived late", "I forgot my phone at home" and who knows what else. Today she texted me again requesting for me to send her my recordings. I typically do not mind helping out a classmate however the repetition, I confess, is starting to get me a little annoyed. I need to interrupt whatever I am doing to upload the file to my cloud before sending it to her and the whole process takes a little bit of my time. She is the quiet and reserved type and I don't want to be mean to her. Should I say no the next time she asks?
I would say no the next time. I went back to college in my 40's and the younger students thought I'd want to give them my notes. In my case, I never said yes. I just said, I'm sorry, I don't share my notes. I never explained why.
The easy thing to do in the future, is just say you don't want to do it anymore, and you suggest she find a way to get the recordings, but you aren't going to give them to her anymore.
You have no obligation to do your work - and hers. And, if you help this lazy girl to get a better grade, you just hurt yourself if the grades are on a curve.
She's taking advantage of your good nature. Time to learn how to say no. "Sorry, but I don't want to do that anymore." It will feel empowering.
ignore her text...or give her back what she gives you...(I deleted it on accident'.."I was sitting far"...'I forgot my phone at home").....
quiet and reserved or not, she's still using you.
You could also text her one time and ask HER to text YOU her lecture recordings...see what becomes of that!
ignore her text...or give her back what she gives you...(I deleted it on accident'.."I was sitting far"...'I forgot my phone at home").....
quiet and reserved or not, she's still using you.
You could also text her one time and ask HER to text YOU her lecture recordings...see what becomes of that!
Whenever people constantly ask for favors, I eventually stop talking to them at all.
One example is a former friend of mine. She moved away and kept wanting me to ship things to her in the mail, and also wanted me to run errands for her, like shopping for stuff and mailing it to her. I refused almost every time and then I blocked her emails permanently. The way I see it, the friendship was pretty much over when she moved far away and also she just viewed me as someone she could use.
ignore her text...or give her back what she gives you...(I deleted it on accident'.."I was sitting far"...'I forgot my phone at home").....
quiet and reserved or not, she's still using you.
You could also text her one time and ask HER to text YOU her lecture recordings...see what becomes of that!
Great idea. I do this when people ask me for money. I tell them I was going to ask THEM for money.
OP, she likes you. She's trying to get something started with you. If you're single and feel like there would be no harm in getting to know her a little, ask her to coffee. If not, you can casually mention your girlfriend (even if you don't have one). That should stop the requests.
OP, she likes you. She's trying to get something started with you. If you're single and feel like there would be no harm in getting to know her a little, ask her to coffee. If not, you can casually mention your girlfriend (even if you don't have one). That should stop the requests.
THIS. Op, you're annoyed by the requests, so you obviously do not like her. So, I think you already have your answer.
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