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One of my friends used to hang out with a co-worker, like go out to dinner sometimes. She went out to dinner with her co-worker the other day she told me that her co-worker who is is much older than she is was a bit nosey about how much she tipped the waitress. She told her what she tipped and then they went their separate ways. She finds out that her co-worker is upset at her because according to her, my friend lied to her about how much she tipped and canceled future plans to hang out with her. They were debating about how much tip was supposed to have been left. One says 20%. The other says 15%. My friend told me that she underestimated how much tip she had to give her according to the 20% tip that her co-worker felt like she should have tipped. Her co-worker told her that she felt embarrassed that she lied, but my friend insist that she didn't lie to her about it. Then she went on to talk about ethics and how that's how waiters make their money. She even went as far as to ask what she can do to make things right, and she told her to figure that out for herself and think about it. Question. Is it really any of her business how much she tipped that waiter? IS there anything my friend could do? They DO have to work together just about everyday.
Yes, I think it is her business as to your friend's tipping. I have stopped eating out with some people that are always cheap tippers. I make up the difference and I get tired of that. That said, 15% is fine for so-so service. Fantastic service - I have tipped as much as 30%. 100% if it is something cheap, like one drink or a cup of coffee.
Exactly! My take is it is good that your friend is now aware what a wierdo her co-worker is so that she can protect herself in the future. By that I mean document everything work related, CC all communications, etc.
This is not normal behavior, it is very controlling and this is the type person that takes it to the next level by passive aggressive punishing behavior er go "Never go to lunch again".
I would be very concerned with having to work with someone that displayed behavior's like this.....I would not put sabotaging your friend's job past this irrational co-worker.
One of my friends used to hang out with a co-worker, like go out to dinner sometimes. She went out to dinner with her co-worker the other day she told me that her co-worker who is is much older than she is was a bit nosey about how much she tipped the waitress. She told her what she tipped and then they went their separate ways. She finds out that her co-worker is upset at her because according to her, my friend lied to her about how much she tipped and canceled future plans to hang out with her. They were debating about how much tip was supposed to have been left. One says 20%. The other says 15%. My friend told me that she underestimated how much tip she had to give her according to the 20% tip that her co-worker felt like she should have tipped. Her co-worker told her that she felt embarrassed that she lied, but my friend insist that she didn't lie to her about it. Then she went on to talk about ethics and how that's how waiters make their money. She even went as far as to ask what she can do to make things right, and she told her to figure that out for herself and think about it. Question. 1.Is it really any of her business how much she tipped that waiter? 2.IS there anything my friend could do? They DO have to work together just about everyday.
1. No.
2. yes, no more dinners with the drama queen.
One of my friends used to hang out with a co-worker, like go out to dinner sometimes. She went out to dinner with her co-worker the other day she told me that her co-worker who is is much older than she is was a bit nosey about how much she tipped the waitress. She told her what she tipped and then they went their separate ways. She finds out that her co-worker is upset at her because according to her, my friend lied to her about how much she tipped and canceled future plans to hang out with her. They were debating about how much tip was supposed to have been left. One says 20%. The other says 15%. My friend told me that she underestimated how much tip she had to give her according to the 20% tip that her co-worker felt like she should have tipped. Her co-worker told her that she felt embarrassed that she lied, but my friend insist that she didn't lie to her about it. Then she went on to talk about ethics and how that's how waiters make their money. She even went as far as to ask what she can do to make things right, and she told her to figure that out for herself and think about it. Question. Is it really any of her business how much she tipped that waiter? IS there anything my friend could do? They DO have to work together just about everyday.
Yes, your friend should most likely shouldn't hang out with coworkers.
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Originally Posted by cheryjohns
Yes, I think it is her business as to your friend's tipping. I have stopped eating out with some people that are always cheap tippers. I make up the difference and I get tired of that. That said, 15% is fine for so-so service. Fantastic service - I have tipped as much as 30%. 100% if it is something cheap, like one drink or a cup of coffee.
Agree, I waited tables through college so I understand what it's like to be a server. Just like you I have had to add more to the tip, I notice even when I have said "that's not enough" and put more money in the other party just sits there....LOL. They don't reach for their wallet most of the time to add in more money.
I will not get up from the table if the tip isn't enough, but that will be it for eating out with that person.
Is it really any of her business how much she tipped that waiter? IS there anything my friend could do? They DO have to work together just about everyday.
It was none of her business. If she didn't like how much she tipped, she can choose not to go out with her again. But I do not ask someone how much they are tipping. It is rude.
One of my friends used to hang out with a co-worker, like go out to dinner sometimes. She went out to dinner with her co-worker the other day she told me that her co-worker who is is much older than she is was a bit nosey about how much she tipped the waitress. She told her what she tipped and then they went their separate ways. She finds out that her co-worker is upset at her because according to her, my friend lied to her about how much she tipped and canceled future plans to hang out with her. They were debating about how much tip was supposed to have been left. One says 20%. The other says 15%. My friend told me that she underestimated how much tip she had to give her according to the 20% tip that her co-worker felt like she should have tipped. Her co-worker told her that she felt embarrassed that she lied, but my friend insist that she didn't lie to her about it. Then she went on to talk about ethics and how that's how waiters make their money. She even went as far as to ask what she can do to make things right, and she told her to figure that out for herself and think about it. Question. Is it really any of her business how much she tipped that waiter? IS there anything my friend could do? They DO have to work together just about everyday.
How are you involved in this? A friend and her coworker are having petty dispute, as for what your friend could do.. simple, not involve you in petty drama.
I will not argue about tipping with someone that is ridiculous. I don't know anyone financial situation for "that day" even close friends. If I don't deem it adequate I will just add to it. 15% is nothing to argue about.
How are you involved in this? A friend and her coworker are having petty dispute, as for what your friend could do.. simple, not involve you in petty drama.
Well, she is my friend and she told me about it. I just found it a bit odd that someone that is going out to dinner, and they've paid their own way, but one person is inquiring how much the other has tipped... someone on here said that it is her business, but I don't see how it is hers.
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