Are you estranged from a parent or two? (holiday, narcissists, brother)
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No, I talk to them regularly. We had a rough patch throughout my teens and 20s but we all grew out of it and get along great now. You only got one set of parents (usually), so you better make the best out of it if possible.
I wonder how many had the rough patch like most do and never got over it. Many times when I hear about people being estranged from their parents since they were 22 it makes me think the kids never grew up. Most of the people I know aren't the same now as they were at that age and neither are their parents.
I wonder how many had the rough patch like most do and never got over it. Many times when I hear about people being estranged from their parents since they were 22 it makes me think the kids never grew up. Most of the people I know aren't the same now as they were at that age and neither are their parents.
I am not talking about abusive relationships.
Ho do you know those 22 year olds weren't abused? Or maybe their parents are miserable people. Maybe they just got away as soon as they could?
I wonder how many had the rough patch like most do and never got over it. Many times when I hear about people being estranged from their parents since they were 22 it makes me think the kids never grew up.
Seems like you need to thinksomemore. And maybe do some reading on personality disorders.
I have been estranged from my father for at least 25 years. I still communicate some with his sisters and other relatives from his side of the family, but not him.
Honesty time: stuff was never peachy (single parent) and my stubborn, well our stubborn personalities. Then I grew up, Air Force, graduated college in 2 years, had time on gi bill and a few more years, picked up a couple more degrees. Shining beacon of a son... yet she and my now step dad (married after I moved out) didn't quite know I was a raving drunk. Then troubles. Managed somehow to get to Vegas relatively unscathed legally and disappeared for 3 years. Got through that and 9-11... so I got a recall and a 1 year tour on my c-130s. Finished, sober, went into healthcare and made immense strides for 11.5 years. Then 2013... relapse, sober, relapse, sober. Fair to say, I pissed it all away. Over the last 2.5 I've had moments of making great money and moments of sleeping on park benches.
Well I'm going away for a 30 day inpatient stay for myself first but also, my mom and step dad and step sister don't need to bury me. Are we estranged? Oh heck yeah. I can't fix my screw ups with words but maybe I can in time as they deserve better and I brought this on. Not trying to be a thread hog. But if my screw up can help at least one person, I'll share my weakness.
I've been estranged from my mother for the second time, going on 4 years now. She's always singled me out from my siblings as irrelevant and unworthy. Even though we haven't had a conversation in years, she still makes tremendous effort to slander my name among other family members and friends.
I wish I'd known 20 years ago what I know now... the chick is whack and it is she who is irrelevant to me and unworthy of my time and attention.
I was, for several years, estranged from both my parents. Over the past few months I started contact again. I guess they are old and I feel kind of bad about them mostly being on their own. But its coming back to bite me because I am dealing with a lot of anxiety and anger again, just from little "nothing" comments from them and them not remember the abuse they put me through...or claiming not to remember. It actually makes me super mad and I am having trouble sleeping because of anger and anxiety from it.
I don't know...I hope I can balance somehow keeping contact (and the good parts of them) and dealing with my feelings about who they are.
My parents are not allowed contact with my children and my husband chooses not to have contact. And the only contact we have is occasional calls. So we are kind of in the middle, so I didn't do the poll.
Yes I should have added more options. I hope you put yourself first and not hurt your own health by dealing with anxiety over them. After all of this time it is still occuring so my guess is, they are pretty sick people. Best of luck to you
Yes. One for 31 years, the other for 20 years. No complaints.
Wow
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