If you had it to do over again, would you have children? (disappointment, person)
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We had two accidental children. We were just careless. But we wouldn't give them up for anything. If we had to do it again, we would have four accidental children, by being twice as careless.
i think it's a very taboo thing for someone to say they would not have had their children if they could do it over. very few people would admit to that... even anonymously online.
Precisely.
Ask people whose children have grown up and now estranged. You'll get different answer.
Ask people whose children have grown up and now estranged. You'll get different answer.
agreed. i think for the most part people also want to be pretend like their life is perfect, especially nowadays with social media and "showing off" like look how good my life is. so no one will ever admit that they are miserable.
my friend has two kids - one is 3 and one is a few months old and she is brutally honest with me about how extremely hard it is and she keeps telling me not to have kids. her husband says the same thing. she loves them and doesn't "regret" it necessarily but i think she just realizes that life could also be good without them. i always tell her i appreciate her honesty.
but then you'll get people who say that she was probably just said those things in a "tough moment" and doesn't really mean any of that.
I had my two, a boy and a girl, and would have had a couple more except I had severe post partum depression with both and decided the risk was not worth it. I was an "only" and always said I would never have just one, ever.
Ask people whose children have grown up and now estranged. You'll get different answer.
That simply isn't true. I know two women who are estranged from one of their children but they still love them to death and hope they come to their senses and return to the family. Their hearts are broken but they would never, ever, say they regretted having their children.
Yep. But I would have done it sooner, say when I was 28. Our first came when I was 32, our third when I was 37. Big difference between the two ages, let me tell you. Plus, I like the idea of shipping the last kid off to college by the time I was 50.
We hated it when our kids went away to college. We really missed them.
That simply isn't true. I know two women who are estranged from one of their children but they still love them to death and hope they come to their senses and return to the family. Their hearts are broken but they would never, ever, say they regretted having their children.
Of course they don't say it to your face! It would make them look evil and deserve the estrangement!
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