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I think I would have been happy either way. I feel I had a harder early parenting experience than average (one has Autism) but I think it contributed to maturity and character.
No, I would not have children, because nothing would have changed. It wouldn't have been fair to them to be born into a situation where there was no sane family support system in place.
I think some people consider childless-by-choice people selfish. I would say it's just the opposite. It is supremely unselfish to forego one of life's joys in order to stop the perpetuation of dysfunction from generation to generation.
I don't have miserable, dissatisfied children. And for that I am both happy and sad.
Yes, I would still have kids. I can't imagine my life w/o them. They're grown now and watching them grow up has been pure joy for me. I was abused as a child, so my kids provided me with love that I never knew existed before I had them.
Now, ask me if I'd go back and do another 18 years raising them all over again?!?!...Prolly NOT.
What, specifically, would they be regretting about not having had children?
My brother regrets not having children. By the time he realized he wanted them he then went through a divorce soon after. Why does he regret it? It's an unbelievable feeling to know you created a human being, the love is like no other. Teaching them about life, watching them grow up, grandchildren, etc.
What, specifically, would they be regretting about not having had children?
That's a good question. I never could quite pin that down with them and I did ask, but it seemed to be along the lines of not feeling like they accomplished something in life as they were getting older. The topic always seemed to come up when I was complaining about the trouble I was having with my kids as teenagers. And there was always plenty of that!
I never had my own children and I wouldn't change that.
My Dh had two children and both of them were highly influenced by his ex. Both can be bought and we don't want to buy them. So in his case he would not do it again. It was both disappointing and very sad to find out how his daughter really is. We were very close to her until she showed her true colors.
The what-ifs can drive you nuts. I wish I'd had more than one child, but I wish I'd had a better husband for me and father for her. On the other hand, stupid as I was to marry him, he was the only chance I ever had to get married and likely would not have had any better offers, so if I hadn't hadn't married him, I would have not had the great kid I've got. I suppose I could have gone the single-mom/in-vitro route, but it wasn't on my radar in those days. I wanted marriage and a family.
i think it's a very taboo thing for someone to say they would not have had their children if they could do it over. very few people would admit to that... even anonymously online.
Because members of our society aren't having enough children to even replace themselves we are heading towards extinction. the Radical Muslims are biding their time and having as many kids as possible.
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