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My father passed when I was 38. That was five years ago. Mom is still with us, and doing great.
My mother's parents were both 71 when I was born, which seems ancient considering that many people become grandparents in their 40's and 50's. I lost my last two grandparents the year I turned 30, but I know at least one person who'd lost them all by age 22, and another who had two left when she turned 40.
Strange how it works out so differently for each person.
I think it depends more on how old they were when they had you. If they had you in their 20's your more likely to have them around when you are 50 than if they had you when they were 40.
True. My father was 48 when my youngest bro was born, and so my bro was only 30 when Dad died--but our oldest sister was 49.
My father passed when I was 38. That was five years ago. Mom is still with us, and doing great.
My mother's parents were both 71 when I was born, which seems ancient considering that many people become grandparents in their 40's and 50's. I lost my last two grandparents the year I turned 30, but I know at least one person who'd lost them all by age 22, and another who had two left when she turned 40.
Strange how it works out so differently for each person.
And really, that's the crux if it. Also, given that many people move away (or the parents/grandparents do) from their hometown, much more than they did in the past - it's very varied as to the roles family members play. Someone with a geographically close parent/grandparent is going to have a vastly different experience to someone who grows up with them living 12 hours drive away.
My father died when I was 19 (he was 49). My mother is still alive (I am 45; she is 75).
My mother's parents died when she was 48 and 50 (grandpa was 95, grandma was 92).
My father's parents died when he was 34 and when he would have been 75 (grandpa was 59 and grandma was 98).
On my husband's side of the family, his biological parents are still both alive (76yo mom and 82yo dad), but he lost both his stepparents in his late 40s. His grandparents have been dead since before he was born (and he was born when his mother was 15), except for his maternal grandmother who died before he turned 1.
I was 39 when dad died. 52 when mom died. I feel blessed to have had been an adult when I lost them ...I cannot imagine losing a parent as a child or teen. Yes I miss them and yes...I wonder why they did not live beyond their years but I am blessed to have had both of them for the time that I did have them.
Mae
It sucked, and unfortunately my mom's passing was just the beginning of a childhood marked by suckage. Crazy step-moms whom widowed dads marry in great haste because they can't conceive of raising young kids by themselves have a way of making life difficult for said kids. And for the dads too.
I was 23 when my Dad was lost at sea, He was 47. My Mom passed away from cancer when she was 66, I was 47. My husband lost his dad when he was 15, His Dad was 49. His mom died when she was 74, my husband was 44.
Our children lost all their grandparents by the time they were 15.
I was 23 when my Dad was lost at sea, He was 47. My Mom passed away from cancer when she was 66, I was 47. My husband lost his dad when he was 15, His Dad was 49. His mom died when she was 74, my husband was 44.
Our children lost all their grandparents by the time they were 15.
I had turned 43 three days earlier when my mother died from pancreatic cancer and 44 when my father died by just giving into loneliness. Mom was 67 and Dad was just 71
I was 36 when my mom went, 47 for my dad, he just passed away a week or so ago. Having both gone is different than just one. Makes you sorta feel a tad more alone in the world.
Strange how it works out so differently for each person.
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Originally Posted by FinsterRufus
And really, that's the crux if it. Also, given that many people move away (or the parents/grandparents do) from their hometown, much more than they did in the past - it's very varied as to the roles family members play. Someone with a geographically close parent/grandparent is going to have a vastly different experience to someone who grows up with them living 12 hours drive away.
All true, and yet what people disregard is the simple fact that if you take 100 people who were born when their parents were 21, and 100 people who were born when their parents were over 40, the group born to the younger parents is MUCH MUCH more likely to have parents and grandparents alive and healthy through most of their lives.
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