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50's just isn't that old to have both parents living. I know more 50+ year olds with 2 living parents than without. In my mid 50's both parents are alive and well.
My husband's parents are both deceased. Both passed away from cancer when he was in his late 30's/early 40's. That is far more unusual.
I think it depends more on how old they were when they had you. If they had you in their 20's your more likely to have them around when you are 50 than if they had you when they were 40.
As people push back the average age of having kids - with so many people having their first child in their thirties rather than in their twenties, we will see more and more people losing their parents at an earlier age themselves. We will also see grandkids who never knew their grandparents well, or only knew them as very elderly, and who may have never met their great grandparents at all.
As people choose to start families later and later, many of these relationships will be compromised or non existent, and that's a big loss for our society that I never hear anyone address.
This is all absolutely true. My parents were 43 and 45 when I was born. I knew just one grandparent, and I only remember her as very old (when I was 10, she was 83). When my mom died, I was 31, but my oldest siblings were 50 and 53. It seems so unfair that they got many more years with her than I did.
I've had this conversation several times (saying, from my own experience, that it is better to have kids when you're young), and basically got the responses "It doesn't matter if you're old or young when you have your kids, because you can die at any time," and "I plan to be healthy and active until I'm 99."
Here I am in an earlier post thinking how that this is not an issue because my parents are both still alive. We were in Arizona visiting them last week.
My wife on the other hand lost her mom when she was 9. She ended up living with her brother and sister in law who already had a couple kids and their own home. My wifes dad had left for Mexico and never came back. Turns out we found he had another family in Mexico. LOL
When my wife got to know her dad again he was living in Georgia where he has three sons. They would talk on the phone and we had planned a trip to visit. One day her brother called and told us that he was in the hospital with cancer and was not expected to live. My wife was able to fly out there but while on the plane he passed away. She went ahead and stayed for the funeral. We are now close to her three brothers and their families.
glad the very end result ( close to her brothers) .
34 when I lost my father, mother still works 6 days a week in the family business at 77.
All 4 of my grandparents lived from 87 to 95 years old.
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