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Why do you have to have a male with you when you go in the first place? They automatically assume that the male is in charge because naturally they know more than most chicks do about that kind of stuff.
I'm 59 years old and this discussion, or one like it, has been going on my entire life. I'm amazed and a bit appalled that we haven't made more progress than this.
If a service provider assumes anything, it should be that the woman in the couple is capable of hearing the answer to the question she asked. Or that the credit card or cash she handed them is hers. 50 years and this still a quandary
Something strange happens with male service workers when i am accompanied by a male.
If I am with my brother at a car repair shop I notice the worker(almost always a male) focuses his conversations on my brother instead of me,even though it is my car and I am the one paying for it.
The same thing happened when I had an electrician come out to look at some wires in my home.
I was the one that called him,so he knew i was the homeowner,yet he focused the whole conversation on my guy friend even though he knew it was my house. The electrician even told my friend what type of tool I would need even though I was standing 2 feet from them. He was also showing him how to tighten a wire but my friend does not live here.
I asked around and this seems to happen to my women relatives too.
How can i let the service worker know this is unacceptable?
You have just described a "microaggression." This scenario is so common for women!!!
I feel like if you want you can call them on it once. But honestly I don't think those people will change. If they aren't savvy enough to figure out the power dynamic, they do not deserve your business.
You step up, ask questions, and if he keeps ignoring you, you say, "Excuse me, Mr. Smith, but it's my car, so I'm the one you have to be explaining to."
Something strange happens with male service workers when i am accompanied by a male.
If I am with my brother at a car repair shop I notice the worker(almost always a male) focuses his conversations on my brother instead of me,even though it is my car and I am the one paying for it.
The same thing happened when I had an electrician come out to look at some wires in my home.
I was the one that called him,so he knew i was the homeowner,yet he focused the whole conversation on my guy friend even though he knew it was my house. The electrician even told my friend what type of tool I would need even though I was standing 2 feet from them. He was also showing him how to tighten a wire but my friend does not live here.
I asked around and this seems to happen to my women relatives too.
How can i let the service worker know this is unacceptable?
Easy. Look the guy in the eye and tell him you're the property owner so kindly discuss it with you,not the other person. As long as you remain silent in these situations it will never change.
Something strange happens with male service workers when i am accompanied by a male.
If I am with my brother at a car repair shop I notice the worker(almost always a male) focuses his conversations on my brother instead of me,even though it is my car and I am the one paying for it.
The same thing happened when I had an electrician come out to look at some wires in my home.
I was the one that called him,so he knew i was the homeowner,yet he focused the whole conversation on my guy friend even though he knew it was my house. The electrician even told my friend what type of tool I would need even though I was standing 2 feet from them. He was also showing him how to tighten a wire but my friend does not live here.
I asked around and this seems to happen to my women relatives too.
How can i let the service worker know this is unacceptable?
I own a car repair shop and do NOT display this sexist attitude. Unfortunately some of my customers are stuck in it! Wife wants to let the husband do all the talking, including telling ME how to fix the car, even though he never drives it. My job at the service desk it to get all the information regarding symptoms that I can and type it into the repair order. So I talk to the Ms if she is the primary driver and ignore the husband.
I mean I have had friends come with me to car repair shops or been at my house when a repair man has shown up and visa versa but whenever the business is being done I am handling it and my friends are doing something else and not even listening. I do the same. If one of my friends is conducting business I start browsing air fresheners or something.
I will tell you that women have asked me to come to garages and car dealerships and even speak with them because they thought I would get a better deal.
If you invite a third party into your business any sensible person will assume there is a reason for this. Handle your own business.
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even though he never drives it. My job at the service desk it to get all the information regarding symptoms that I can and type it into the repair order. So I talk to the Ms if she is the primary driver and ignore the husband.