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What in the world? Why would you give a "favor" like this to an employee of any level?
Nepotism and dating in the workplace is already a no-no, and you encouraged it?
By the way: respect is earned, not given.
The favor was more for her, as I really liked her and we had met previously. She was really in need of help and I never shy away from that. I'm not sorry I helped, it's quite difficult to get a good job these days and not being able to work leads to depressions and other horrible things.
This is how I am feeling spot on. The age gap is a lot smaller in my case, but that's it. I am also quite sensitive, so just getting over it won't work. I am positive this ""get over it" thing doesn't work for most of us in difficult situations. That's why we're posting here, there would be no need for advice, no instance of communication like this if we could just "get over it".
The majority of time, people do just need to get over it. Like it or not, that's how life works. He doesn't owe you anything. You don't owe him anything. You said you're sensitive. Well, that's too bad. You really do need to just get over it. So he doesn't like you. Big deal. He doesn't have to! So he's mean to you - whatever that means. Does he through feces at you or just ignore you? If he's ignoring you, what do you care? Seriously. What's the problem? This sounds very high school.
The majority of time, people do just need to get over it. Like it or not, that's how life works. He doesn't owe you anything. You don't owe him anything. You said you're sensitive. Well, that's too bad. You really do need to just get over it. So he doesn't like you. Big deal. He doesn't have to! So he's mean to you - whatever that means. Does he through feces at you or just ignore you? If he's ignoring you, what do you care? Seriously. What's the problem? This sounds very high school.
The posts I wrote explain it. It's more of a harassing situation than just plain ignore. But you are right about it being "high-school". it is.
The posts I wrote explain it. It's more of a harassing situation than just plain ignore. But you are right about it being "high-school". it is.
You've never said he was harassing you. He said he was competitive. Then he became rude and ignored you. YOU confronted him! He told you that you started being cold to him and that's what triggered all of this. If he is ignoring, how on earth is he possibly harassing you?
When I said this sounds very high school, I was including your behavior in this. You confront him. Then you start a thread about it. You never answer anyone's questions about what specifically he did. He was just rude and ignored you. Truth is that your feelings got hurt for some unknown reason. Life's tough. Suck it up, buttercup.
Did his change of attitude toward you happen after you met his girlfriend and offered her a job? If so, it sounds like something within that set him off.
You've never said he was harassing you. He said he was competitive. Then he became rude and ignored you. YOU confronted him! He told you that you started being cold to him and that's what triggered all of this. If he is ignoring, how on earth is he possibly harassing you?
When I said this sounds very high school, I was including your behavior in this. You confront him. Then you start a thread about it. You never answer anyone's questions about what specifically he did. He was just rude and ignored you. Truth is that your feelings got hurt for some unknown reason. Life's tough. Suck it up, buttercup.
I will do that. Thanks! I tend to believe, even if you sound harsh, that you are right. Given my nature (I'm always trying to keep the peace, work well in a team, do everything to keep the balance) I can be annoyingly sensitive to things like these. For me, if I'm talking to someone (and you and I don't get along, there's passive aggressive behaviour, lack of eye contact, etc,) and you come to join my conversations all the time just to talk to the other person and ignore me blatantly, it's a sign of disrespect and if it happens regularly I feel harassed. It's possible I'm wrong and this is where you come in and open my eyes.
Did his change of attitude toward you happen after you met his girlfriend and offered her a job? If so, it sounds like something within that set him off.
Probably We work for a big multinational company that deals with high-level clients and we all have access to one another's target group. My concern is 100% related to being able to work around this and keeping peace in a (already) toxic environment. Without this we cannot trust each other with management/products/clients.
Probably We work for a big multinational company that deals with high-level clients and we all have access to one another's target group. My concern is 100% related to being able to work around this and keeping peace in a (already) toxic environment. Without this we cannot trust each other with management/products/clients.
Honestly it sounds to me like he is just a self-centered baby who wants everything his own way. He knows that keeping the peace and smoothing things over is very important to you, and he knows that you will work overtime to accomplish this. So he's milking that for all it's worth by acting like a giant baby, knowing that it will bother you and you will put your energy towards it.
Honestly it sounds to me like he is just a self-centered baby who wants everything his own way. He knows that keeping the peace and smoothing things over is very important to you, and he knows that you will work overtime to accomplish this. So he's milking that for all it's worth by acting like a giant baby, knowing that it will bother you and you will put your energy towards it.
I totally agree. I will do my best to show him respect under any circumstance. Tough luck!
I totally agree. I will do my best to show him respect under any circumstance. Tough luck!
I wouldn't even make it about respect. Go with indifference. Go in with the goal of giving no energy to this person.
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We work for a big multinational company that deals with high-level clients and we all have access to one another's target group. My concern is 100% related to being able to work around this and keeping peace in a (already) toxic environment. Without this we cannot trust each other with management/products/clients.
