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I'd need to know more about why the SIL wasn't originally invited to say whether you made the right call.
I do think that they were wrong to go behind your back and invite her, that was not their decision to make. But that isn't going to fix the issue of none of them now attending and there being no photographer that you apparently promised.
Was BIL going to be paid for this event? Was there a contract in place? Never rely on someone's word for something this important, especially when it's with family you already have drama with.
When he said he was willing to reconsider if the relationship was repaired, he meant that you will be the one doing the mending, not him. Without knowing what the original problem was, I can't say whether you should just suck it up or not.
I assume they're also going to hold it against you if you arrange someone else to do the photos, even though you obviously have to since he is now refusing to give a firm commitment. Ugh.
Why are you making your son's graduation about YOU? It doesn't sound as though it's due to space constraints (tickets), so what's the big deal? And why would you send an announcement to anybody you deliberately want to keep away?
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Originally Posted by elliedeee
Your priorities are screwed up.
It's your son's graduation. It's his big day. Forget the relatives.. forget the drama that has nothing to do with him and celebrate HIS BIG DAY.
and just hire a darn photographer or take photo's yourself.
This IS his big day - a day he should expect extended family to be there to celebrate with him - and now with this mess even Grandma isn't going to be there.
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