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Because I like the guy and his girlfriend and enjoy our friendship, but don't want to hang out with them 24/7. For God's sake, are you not intelligent or do you just not understand?
OP: Exactly what answers were you looking for when posting this thread? Exactly what are you looking for by posting this thread? Exactly what is the purpose of your posting this thread considering the many replies you have received?
Did you already make up your mind regarding your friend before posting this thread?
OP: Exactly what answers were you looking for when posting this thread? Exactly what are you looking for by posting this thread? Exactly what is the purpose of your posting this thread considering the many replies you have received?
Did you already make up your mind regarding your friend before posting this thread?
How to deal with the issue. Does anyone understand the question and goal of it on this forum or are you all clueless?
How to deal with the issue. Does anyone understand the question and goal of it on this forum or are you all clueless?
I understand it. And I am going to back-track on saying just 'yes I have plans'. I mean that is fine, it's whatever you are comfortable with, but it's also ok to say, if you want, what you are doing. None of my friends just say 'yes, I have plans'. They say some version of oh I'm going to do blah blah that night.
There is nothing wrong with either way, but then just stop answering further questions and he will learn.
How to deal with the issue. Does anyone understand the question and goal of it on this forum or are you all clueless?
Actually, it looks like you are the one who's clueless here, since you've received answers, many of them the same, and you still haven't figured out that you should stand up to the guy and tell him to back off.
Is he using you as a buffer? As in, his relationship with the girlfriend is not so good when you aren't around to help move the conversation along? Is he uncomfortable being alone with her for some other reason?
You just need to set boundaries. He's not entitled to know where you are every second of the day, so all you need to say is "tonight's not going to work" and then not answer any more of his texts. If you want to maintain the friendship, then get ahead of it and make plans with him. If he knows you're meeting up next weekend, then he might not be so persistent for any scrap of your time.
Great advice, but look at the age of the OP.
Many young people today don't seem to get that you don't have to have your phone on all the time, and that you can put it away. Oh the horror, actually disconnect for awhile and enjoy the people you're with.
Or that you don't have to text or post your every move on FB. I wonder if this friend is finding out what the OP is doing and where because the OP posts everything they do on social media.
As others posters have said a simple "no" with no further discussion would stop this.
Constant texting back and forth and broadcasting everything you do(especially when you have a scenario like this) doesn't.
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