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Old 11-04-2017, 02:58 PM
 
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Invited to a dinner tomorrow. Asked the hostess if I may bring along a small side dish or dessert maybe?
She said NO we are all set .

What is proper etiquette in this situation?

She is not a big wine drinker - otherwise would have brought one bottle with me .

Flowers?Nothing ?

Thanks in advance
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Old 11-04-2017, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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Some nice chocolates if you can find them quickly. Is there a local candy shop in your area? I would bring flowers if we didn't have a nice chocolate shop.
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Old 11-04-2017, 03:05 PM
 
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I always bring flowers
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Old 11-04-2017, 03:31 PM
 
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I usually bring flowers too. Cut flowers that will not be a burden to water like a plant.
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Old 11-04-2017, 03:49 PM
 
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Definitely bring something. Flowers like others said are always nice. It depends on how well I know the hosts, but I like to bring something locally made, like honey, local chocolates, small batch hot sauces, handmade candles...(again, depends on how well I know the hosts, what they like)

Bringing lemons from our lemon tree always gets the best reception though!
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Old 11-04-2017, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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flowers are are nice gesture. I would not bring a side dish or something as it might not 'go" with what the hostess is serving.

flowers are always safe, and thats what I do, unless, its an event or a person where you know desrts are welcome, hey, who doesnt like deserts....
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Old 11-05-2017, 05:46 PM
 
Location: 89052 & 75206
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chocolates or wine
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Old 11-05-2017, 05:56 PM
 
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I think this is too late to answer to this specific OP, but I think etiquette in general states if you intend to reciprocate the invitation, and the hostess says don't bring anything, don't bring anything.

If it's very unlikely that you'll reciprocate, then yes, you need to bring something.
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Old 11-05-2017, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Endless Concert
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If the hostess says don't bring anything - don't. She's referring to bringing a side dish.

A hostess gift is something else. It's proper to bring a hostess gift. I usually bring flowers (in a vase) or a small plant grouping in a nice decorative container.
It depends on the person, may bring a dessert wine or chocolates make sure the hostess knows it's just for them later so they don't feel obligated to open the dessert wine or chocolates.
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Old 11-05-2017, 06:22 PM
 
Location: Niagara Region
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If the hostess says don't bring anything - don't. She's referring to bringing a side dish.

A hostess gift is something else. It's proper to bring a hostess gift. I usually bring flowers (in a vase) or a small plant grouping in a nice decorative container.
It depends on the person, may bring a dessert wine or chocolates make sure the hostess knows it's just for them later so they don't feel obligated to open the dessert wine or chocolates.
Right. Never ever show up empty-handed when invited to a dinner at someone's house. Even if you bring wine, it isn't supposed to be for the meal the host is serving, because part of planning a meal is to decide what wine to serve and that is the host's job, not yours. Flowers or some sort of potted plant would be a nice gesture.
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