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Tell her to go home and stay with her husband. Let her kids make other arrangements for baby sitting. The husband feels abandoned because he has been. It sounds like he was overwhelmed with taking care of the dogs and being on his own. If she wants to keep the dogs, let her take care of them. If not, give them up. If her husband is depressed there's not much she can do about it. It's up to him.
Hogwash-He has not been abandoned, his wife went to visit her kids for only a week. He is an adult and should not need another adult to take care of him unless he is an invalid. He is the one who insisted on the second puppy.
Why in the world should she be the only one to take care of the dogs, and what functioning adult would be overwhelmed being on their own for only a week.
She said he has been depressed for two years. It is what it is, not what it should be. This all came about when she left him alone for a week with the puppies. If he doesn't want to take care of the dogs anymore, then what else can she do?
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Originally Posted by funisart
Hogwash-He has not been abandoned, his wife went to visit her kids for only a week. He is an adult and should not need another adult to take care of him unless he is an invalid. He is the one who insisted on the second puppy.
Why in the world should she be the only one to take care of the dogs, and what functioning adult would be overwhelmed being on their own for only a week.
She said he has been depressed for two years. It is what it is, not what it should be. This all came about when she left him alone for a week with the puppies. If he doesn't want to take care of the dogs anymore, then what else can she do?
No, she said he hasn’t been himself for two years. He said that the dogs were making him depressed. If he doesn’t want to take care of the dogs for three more days he needs to board them. He chose to buy the dogs too, in fact he insisted on getting the second one, so he is equally responsible. She said nothing about him being a helpless invalid.
No, she said he hasn’t been himself for two years. He said that the dogs were making him depressed. If he doesn’t want to take care of the dogs for three more days he needs to board them. He chose to buy the dogs too, in fact he insisted on getting the second one, so he is equally responsible. She said nothing about him being a helpless invalid.
"She really babies this guy, and this is the thanks she gets."
She may have enabled his helplessness. Also, depression often accompanies diabetes. They were grieving the loss of their dog when they bought the puppies. So whether he is responsible for the decision is irrevalent if he is not capable of caring for two puppies. I agree that the woman should make arrangements to get the dogs boarded.
I don't recommend boarding two 6 month old puppies (it could cause them to regress on housetraining, etc.).
She can boost him up by saying she'll be home in less than three days. Just hold on a little longer. Then when she gets home, they figure out what to do.
Actually, they have been boarded and it went very well.
My friends son would like her to come every other month for a week. If she goes, she will need to work this out beforehand.
It remains to be determined whether the husband is slipping mentally, or just being selfish.
Actually, they have been boarded and it went very well.
My friends son would like her to come every other month for a week. If she goes, she will need to work this out beforehand.
It remains to be determined whether the husband is slipping mentally, or just being selfish.
Well that seems like a serious imposition for the son to ask for her to stay a week every other month. There must be other solutions for their "babysittting". A teen is not a baby, and while he probably shouldn't be left on his own for a week, there must be a different way to handle his care. I suppose it depends which end of the teen years he is on (13 versus 18), and how much they trust him.
Well that seems like a serious imposition for the son to ask for her to stay a week every other month. There must be other solutions for their "babysittting". A teen is not a baby, and while he probably shouldn't be left on his own for a week, there must be a different way to handle his care. I suppose it depends which end of the teen years he is on (13 versus 18), and how much they trust him.
My friend enjoys the visits. They are a nice break in routine and she likes pampering her grandson. They live 600 miles away. Her son works nights, and DIL makes bimonthly trips to Europe on business. They just prefer their son not be alone at night.
If you were married to her husband, you’d appreciate the break too.
My reason for saying this is only because of this latest issue.
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