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For example. I can think of at least 7 times we have gone to dinner and had to move tables because she didn’t like where we were seated. To close to the kitchen, a draft, to hot, doesn’t like a high top table etc. sometimes there are several people and her husband will ask if we can move and then we all have to pick up our drinks (if we had gotten there first and then she got and didn’t like the table) and move. Then many times she will complain about the wait staff. Will be rude to them if they don’t bring something right away. If her check has someone else’s appetizer on it she will get angry instead of just asking them nicely to fix it. I don’t understand how she doesn’t realize how she is.
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Jennifer, in general, is she actually right? Despite her demeanor, is there really a much better table, or the service is slow, etc?
I ask, because my husband is kind of like that, and he's right. But he's not rude, he'll just say can we have that table over there, or goes to alert wait staff that we've all been sitting there for 30 minutes and no one has come take drink orders, or everyone's entree has arrived and is cooling while one person's hasn't been delivered, and it's been 10 minutes.
If she just wasn't rude about it, it's great to have someone along who will ask for the best dining experience. And yes, that window booth over there in the corner is way better than this well-lit table right in front of the bathroom or by the drafty front door.
(On the other hand, I had an elderly aunt who could NOT be made happy, and she made everyone's experience miserable, so I do get that angle.)
Jennifer, in general, is she actually right? Despite her demeanor, is there really a much better table, or the service is slow, etc?
I ask, because my husband is kind of like that, and he's right. But he's not rude, he'll just say can we have that table over there, or goes to alert wait staff that we've all been sitting there for 30 minutes and no one has come take drink orders, or everyone's entree has arrived and is cooling while one person's hasn't been delivered, and it's been 10 minutes.
If she just wasn't rude about it, it's great to have someone along who will ask for the best dining experience. And yes, that window booth over there in the corner is way better than this well-lit table right in front of the bathroom or by the drafty front door.
(On the other hand, I had an elderly aunt who could NOT be made happy, and she made everyone's experience miserable, so I do get that angle.)
I think demeanor is important. However, if I get a terrible table and there are numerous other (better) tables available, I am not going to sit right next to the toilet or in a super noisy/drafty table just to be polite. If the restaurant is packed, that’s a different story.
If it happens all the time, it's not the tables, it's her. Does this happen about other things, as well?
I agree that based on this she sounds like she likes to be/needs to be "in charge" and feels entitled to be so, and as long as she is catered to this behavior will continue.
If they arrive after everyone else next time, agree that you are all going to stay at the table you are at. See if that has any effect.
I often have issues with the tables offered and will politely ask for the one I want - has never been a problem, and have never been refused. Some people just have keener awareness of an optimum dining experience.
Rudeness is an entirely different issue.
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