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I had a friend who was also an ex coworker. We would meet for coffee a few times a month. She had been fighting lymphoma for a few years but seemed to be doing okay. She'd never kissed me before, but one day when we said goodbye she kissed me on the cheek. I thought it was kind of odd. A week or so later she was in hospice and when I saw her she was medicated and not responsive. I think she knew the last time we had coffee that I may not see her again.
My niece saved a text I once sent that said something to the effect that my boss hugged me unexpectedly and that she is so skinny and bony that it felt really creepy.
She brought it up a couple of years later.
I have since run into that former boss at industry events and she has hugged me again and she's just all bone with skin stretched over it.
I'm not the hugging type. However, I'm a pretty, "live and let live" kind of guy. I've had several coworkers ask me if they can give be a hug after something significant happened. I always say yes, and give them a hug, because I know it means something to them. It's not hard.
I hug female co workers ALL the time, sometimes even male co workers. I even hug customers at my work and they hug me. People at my work are huggers I guess. I don't do that "sexual harrassment" stuff, just friendly hugging. I don't do much friendly flirting anymore since my depression swept over me.
Personally, I see no problem with a hug anywhere. What makes it a problem is the environment, the situation, the occasion, etc.
From a business standpoint, a simple mutual hug can have some unintended consequences later. To begin with, someone may interpret it as something more than a hug. If the hug is between a manager and his or her subordinate, someone else can use it to claim favoritism when that individual does not like a decision the manager makes, does not get recommended for promotions, etc.
One of the other individual may interpret a hug as something more than a friendly action. That can lead to bad outcomes.
My take on this is from the business standpoint, so be careful.
You have a great day.
elamigo
I dont remember hugging my co-workers at all. Not even for holidays. Only time I hugged my co-worker is at her husbands funeral. She was crying and I was crying and we hugged. Thats it.
If she was hugging you for no reason, maybe she has a thing for you?? (see what i did there? this is what people will say, usually, when hugs happen for no reason at work).
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