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My Grandson invited me for my birthday to his house for a both sides of the family party, on Thanksgiving Day.
...... Next to the balloon for me, was an encrypted black wording stating " Happy Birthday," very poorly displayed. My spouse states that it is an encryption wishing you death....
..... What is your take on the actions of the other side of the family, on my birthday? Your comments are greatly appreciated.....
There is no such thing in ANY culture anywhere in the world as a death wish in encrypted black wording stating "Happy Birthday".
Your husband is imagining things and I think his own state of mind and motives for saying that to you needs to be examined more than the actions of other family members. He should not have said such a horrible mean-spirited thing about the family to you and it seems to me he said it to spite you and make you doubt your loved ones.
The balloon and encryption sounds like something a child would do as a quick after thought to pay homage to your birthday which happens to fall within the same month as Thanksgiving.
It sounds to me like the party was intended to be a Thanksgiving party, not a birthday party. If it had been intended to be a birthday party why is there no mention of a Birthday cake with candles, and birthday gifts for you and people singing "Happy Birthday To You" with you as the guest of honour?
Sasie, I think your husband is opening a nasty can of worms with his suggestion, and so are you in mentioning the value of a house that your grandson will be inheriting from you when you die.
And I think you are opening yourself up to criticism in posting and complaining about being neglected while you were at a big family Thanksgiving gathering for so many careless people at a time when there is a pandemic and people all over the world are specifically and desperately being pleaded with by health authorities to not have or attend any kinds of large gatherings this year.
That strikes me as a strange thought from your spouse. Why would one come to such conclusions?
My philosophy - if you want something particular in terms of celebrating/observing your birthday, it is always best to plan and host it yourself - make your own dream come true. Otherwise, anything anyone else chooses to do for you is a nice thought and one shouldn't have any expectations. Further, it is very common to make a bigger deal out of doubled-up birthdays and birthdays of youth. There is no need at all to read into it - that only leads to weird conspiracy theories and getting upset over speculation.
What if your spouse out lives you? I take it he has no part of the ownership of the house? Is he allowed to live there until he dies or does he get kicked out?
That strikes me as a strange thought from your spouse. Why would one come to such conclusions?
My philosophy - if you want something particular in terms of celebrating/observing your birthday, it is always best to plan and host it yourself - make your own dream come true. Otherwise, anything anyone else chooses to do for you is a nice thought and one shouldn't have any expectations. Further, it is very common to make a bigger deal out of doubled-up birthdays and birthdays of youth. There is no need at all to read into it - that only leads to weird conspiracy theories and getting upset over speculation.
All of this. Plus, well, we're in the middle of a pandemic?!? 20+ people getting together from multiple households?
I mean if ANY year deserves to be given an excuse for not being like past years it's this one.
An "encrypted black" Happy Birthday next to a balloon? What in the world is that?
Frankly, inviting anyone, especially a grandparent who is old enough to have an adult grandchild, to an indoor celebration with over 20 people (from multiple households) during a worldwide pandemic is completely irresponsible.
There is no such thing in ANY culture anywhere in the world as a death wish in encrypted black wording stating "Happy Birthday".
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I agree.
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Originally Posted by Zoisite
There is no such thing in ANY culture anywhere in the world as a death wish in encrypted black wording stating "Happy Birthday".
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It sounds to me like the party was intended to be a Thanksgiving party, not a birthday party. If it had been intended to be a birthday party why is there no mention of a Birthday cake with candles, and birthday gifts for you and people singing "Happy Birthday To You" with you as the guest of honour?
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It sounds to me like the party was intended to be a Thanksgiving party, not a birthday party. If it had been intended to be a birthday party why is there no mention of a Birthday cake with candles, and birthday gifts for you and people singing "Happy Birthday To You" with you as the guest of honour?
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I think the OP mentioned that it was a combo party in years past, with multiple BDs being celebrated and in a larger way.
Can you explain the encrypted balloon thing? I have no idea what that means.
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