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Am I the only one who has a seriously dysfunctional family? The drama among my family members involves these primary themes - loaned money not being returned, someone talking crap behind someone else's back and acting condescending, people always complaining about their bad situation (which they got into through their own very bad choices).
Gosh I am so sick of it Swore not to get involved with all this childish BS but it just keeps coming up Anyone experience the same thing and how do you deal with it?
Everyone has some kind of drama with someone in their family. I cut off family members that cause the drama. Its just luck that they share DNA with me, nothing requires me to stay close to cousins or a brother who is a lunatic.
I tried to move away from the drama but sometimes it finds me.
Two cases in point:
1. My brother (who is often a spendthrift) had my phone # down as a contact for some creditors. The mere fact this has happened 2 times makes me so angry. He has a wife who works, he works, and does not have any kids at home. They have a house, at least 2-3 vehicles and live pretty well from what I hear. (He is in FL and I am in VT). My credit is very good and we keep a very tight handle on spending since we do not have much $.
I was angry he used my name & number.
2. The same said brother pissed off my sister and myself again over $. It is my parents 50th wedding anniversary soon. My sister thought we call all kick in some money (neither of us is doing very well financially thanks to the recession) and get them a joint present. She ran it by Bro who said, sure but never gave a dime. Funny, I have no job, a child at home, one car and financial problems but manage to come up with the $$..My sister has 4 kids and MAJOR financial problems and did...but no from Bro...
Glad he is in FL and I am thousands of miles away.
If that's your idea of dysfunctional I'd say you got off easy. When you witness a parent passed out drunk on the kitchen floor in their underwear, or one parent stabbing the other, or uncles who are babysitting you and flip out in front of you on bad PCP trips come talk to us. Until then, consider your family relatively normal by much of the world's standards.
If that's your idea of dysfunctional I'd say you got off easy. When you witness a parent passed out drunk on the kitchen floor in their underwear, or one parent stabbing the other, or uncles who are babysitting you and flip out in front of you on bad PCP trips come talk to us. Until then, consider your family relatively normal by much of the world's standards.
Am I the only one who has a seriously dysfunctional family? The drama among my family members involves these primary themes - loaned money not being returned, someone talking crap behind someone else's back and acting condescending, people always complaining about their bad situation (which they got into through their own very bad choices).
Gosh I am so sick of it Swore not to get involved with all this childish BS but it just keeps coming up Anyone experience the same thing and how do you deal with it?
1. Don't loan money to people who live beyond their means. If they are borrowing, they are can't afford it right now.
2. Tell this Person A to man up and talk their **** to the face of their concern. Then tell Person A that you've heard it all when others talk about Person A, so you don't listen to repeated drama.
3. A good response to complainer, Life suck. What are you doing about it because nothing is working with you wasting breath complaining.
Yep. I loved him dearly and he wasn't a bad man, but I grew up in a crazy house. Or as Charlton Heston would say "This is a MAAAAAD house!!! He did manage to mellow out the last ten years of his life though.
Jerry Springer based his show on my family. A mother who should by stock in whoever makes Natural Light beer. Aunts who b*tch and physically fight with each other. Uncles who kill each other. Drugs, alcohol, physical abuse, verbal abuse...you name it!
I thankful everyday that I did not have any of those traits rub off on me and I only see these crazy a** people once a couple of years...if that!
Grow up around that my friend and I will gladly give you the title of dysfunctional family!
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Swore not to get involved with all this childish BS but it just keeps coming up 
Anyone experience the same thing and how do you deal with it?
He did manage to mellow out the last ten years of his life though.
