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It was considered "normal" during the stone age, because people lived in caves with only one room so there was no other place for the kids to sleep.
Haha, some Westerners are so absorbed in Western culture they can't see the forest for the trees.. My father grew up with 9 siblings and his parents in a ONE-ROOM dwelling. I am 25. My father didn't live in the Stone Age.
Just because we live in a Western nation doesn't mean we have to be ignorant of other cultures and other ways of doing things. This should be heir apparent.
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And wouldn't he want better for his children? Answer: Yes because you aren't living in a one room hut with 10 other people.
Yes, my Dad wanted and was eventually able to provide more living space for his offspring (both sets, since he eventually remarried), but that's not the point. The point is that you all (Westerners in the 21st century) sound like it's so foreign, sick, weird, and bizarre for parents to be sharing close sleeping quarters with kids when it happens all across the globe for various reasons. Sleeping with a parent or parents is not traumatizing, it's in fact very normal in most parts of the world, along with keeping infants close to you 24/7 and nursing to a "late" age. Just because that's personally foreign to you doesn't make it inherently foreign to others. I slept with my mother on and off til the age of 14 and I don't have any psychological problems. This nonsense has to die.
I read about co-sleeping prior to dd being born and thought it was just something for hippies. Lol! I never imagined we'd do it. Turns out she and I both slept so much better with her next to me in bed then she did in her bassinet beside my bed. Here we are 4 years later, still sharing a bed. DD has her own room and her own bed but she chooses to sleep with us every night and since we're all comfortable with it there's no reason to make a change. When she's ready, she'll move to her own bed.
I think that co-sleeping sounds a lot weirder then it is in reality. It feels very normal and very natural. It seems odd to me that some people are so against it. I certainly can understand reasons why people would not choose to do it themselves but I don't see any reason to judge. There's nothing wrong with sleeping next to your own child.
I think that co-sleeping sounds a lot weirder then it is in reality. It feels very normal and very natural. It seems odd to me that some people are so against it. I certainly can understand reasons why people would not choose to do it themselves but I don't see any reason to judge. There's nothing wrong with sleeping next to your own child.
The first thing that comes to my mind when I hear cosleeping is "omg way too hot". I get too hot when I sleep.
I have a bit of an issue with some of my friends....my family and i co sleep. I'm have 2, 7 year old twins girls and a 5 year old boy and we all sleep every night in a bed soft comfy bed along with the hubby. The children actually do have their own rooms for privacy and sometimes they do sleep in them, but for the most part they tendto snuggle up with us every night. The are very well adjusted smart kids with no anxiety issues i can see or seperation problems so i thought this was no issue as this is something both my hubby and i were raised like. Well until i mentioned to a group of moms at a book club and every one of the 10 gave me the "what are you thinking glance". I got the argument "your kids will be whiny" "they will never learn to leave the nest" "you must have no sex life" the last of which is far from true . Am i nuts though to think what we are doing is okay? Or am i really doing something wrong here?
Didn't read the whole thread, but NO, you are not doing anything wrong!!! I know plenty of people who have a family bed. My 5 year old climbs into our bed every other night at around 3-4am...If this makes everyone happy and comfortable, I see no problem with it.
Just because we live in a Western nation doesn't mean we have to be ignorant of other cultures and other ways of doing things. This should be heir apparent.
Yes, my Dad wanted and was eventually able to provide more living space for his offspring (both sets, since he eventually remarried), but that's not the point. The point is that you all (Westerners in the 21st century) sound like it's so foreign, sick, weird, and bizarre for parents to be sharing close sleeping quarters with kids when it happens all across the globe for various reasons. Sleeping with a parent or parents is not traumatizing, it's in fact very normal in most parts of the world, along with keeping infants close to you 24/7 and nursing to a "late" age. Just because that's personally foreign to you doesn't make it inherently foreign to others. I slept with my mother on and off til the age of 14 and I don't have any psychological problems. This nonsense has to die.
I skimmed the responces.
We have 7 kids and all of them have co-slept with us. Somewhere around 5 or 6 they feel ready and wanting their own bed and space.
The eldest 2 are 13 and 17. Neither are whiny or insecure, neither feel the need for a gf yet and are balanced, healthy individuals.
As far as co-sleeping due to laziness...wow. Im insulted. Im not lazy in the least. We chose to co-sleep, believing that this is best for our family, not b/c Im too lazy to get up!
OP mama, do what feels right to you. If your friend isnt supportive, do a quick google and you'll meet millions of mamas who do like you do, or at the very least will find a ton of stats to show your friend.
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. Am i nuts though to think what we are doing is okay? Or am i really doing something wrong here?
