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That all sounds great but in reality, people (like teachers and bosses) DO actually get to tell you what to do, how to do it and when it's due. That's just a fact of life. You can do things your way on your own time.
There is nothing in txtqueen's post that indicates she thinks she can determine her own deadlines. I don't understand why you're being so judgemental and misinterpreting what people are saying. I'm getting the impression that your career doesn't allow for you to have much control over your own work. Not everyone lives in that world.
It's never been my world. Never. I've always had control over my own work as a professional. I've never been in closely supervised positions. And most of my life I've been the boss. Sure, I have usually reported to someone, but never in a daily manner. Just via a couple meetings per month.
Hopes...I'm not twisting your words I'm simply restating the OP's words. She said several times her son had a lassez faire attitude about his work. Your son has an issue, you are dealing with it in a way that apparently works for him. That's great but it doesn't mean that is the issue with the OP. Even if his twin has issues. It may be, it may not be. You can't determine a learning disability just based on some posts. I clearly stated in my first post that he may need help with organizational skills.
I'm not diagnosing him. I'm warning her to be aware that it could be possible if he continues to have problems with his portfolio.
My son's organizational challenges didn't appear until 8th grade, when organization demands were more challenging. It's a common grade for this problem to surface.
We have different opinions. I'm okay with that. I'm not sure why you aren't.
I actually have quite a bit of control over my work - I've been very fortunate in my career but it's come with time. I've been working for a long time. To get back to the OP, the problem was that her son didn't turn in work. He depended on his good test grades. That is the issue. I see no problem in parents punishing for not turning in work. They are trying to teach their son that it's not all about test grades. I personally think that is a very valid lesson.
I guess its different in Canada then because 80 has never been a c+ here.
It's a C+ here.
I don't punish ONE bad grade- if there's one test that they just happen to do poorly on and the rest of their grades are A's and B's, I'll let it slide. But if getting C's, D's and F's becomes a habit, that's when the consequences start kicking in.
Throughout the south, the school districts I have worked in and/or had children attend:
A 94-100
B 85-93
C 78-84
D 70-77
F below 70
In many areas with the traditional grading scale below, students have to repeat a class if they get below 70, which means they basically fail even if they get a D.
A 90-100
B 80-89
C 70-79
D 60-69
F below 60
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I don't understand why you're being so judgemental and misinterpreting what people are saying. I'm getting the impression that your career doesn't allow for you to have much control over your own work. Not everyone lives in that world. 
