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Not growing up, being always dependent on others (especially the mother), basically being a wimp that every father would be ashamed of.
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Originally Posted by monumentus
And aside from simply making things up - do you have anything to support a link between expressing affection through hugging and the things you have listed above?
Have you explored other possible reasons for why your son may have attachment issues towards the mother? A strong desire to not go home to you forexample?
Not growing up, being always dependent on others (especially the mother), basically being a wimp that every father would be ashamed of.
Quote:
Originally Posted by monumentus
And aside from simply making things up - do you have anything to support a link between expressing affection through hugging and the things you have listed above?
Have you explored other possible reasons for why your son may have attachment issues towards the mother? A strong desire to not go home to you for example?
I noticed my son had a friend that always hugged him, but I now notice he has another friend that does it too. It is cute, but I try to encourage mine to just give fist bumps or high fives instead--but he's 7. Anyways, I guess it is a phase, and while it's cute now, I think if its excessive might be they are more comfortable with being cuddly or needing sense of touch to feel close to someone. I guess the question is, how much or often the child does it? Maybe he is needing the personal touch or hugs.
I noticed my son had a friend that always hugged him, but I now notice he has another friend that does it too. It is cute, but I try to encourage mine to just give fist bumps or high fives instead--but he's 7. Anyways, I guess it is a phase, and while it's cute now, I think if its excessive might be they are more comfortable with being cuddly or needing sense of touch to feel close to someone. I guess the question is, how much or often the child does it? Maybe he is needing the personal touch or hugs.
Curious as to why you would do this?
My soon to be 16 year old has friends that are male and friends that are female and they all hug each other, especially if they haven't seen each other in a while.
Our family hugs, my dad and brother hug still and they are 70ish and 40ish. My sons hug and one of his friends family hugs, I do not believe in going up to a stranger and hugging but if it is someone that I know and I know that they have no personal space issues then I will hug them. To make sure we have a complete understanding when the adults/adults hugs or adult/children hug there is no lingerin, body pressing or hands going up and down, it is an innocent hug. If I were to see an instance of this then it would never happen again.
There is nothing wrong with hugging a person you haven't seen recently, male or female, but hugging constantly makes me think something else is at work here. Most people like their personal space, therefore, we move to shaking hands, as adults. I've never seen too many kids hugging anyone but their parents. I don't think we need to encourage hugging, it can just be natural at appropriate times.
There is nothing wrong with hugging a person you haven't seen recently, male or female, but hugging constantly makes me think something else is at work here.
Such as what?
Some people are more tactile than others. I do not see the issue - let alone reason to think nefarious unmentioned things are "at work".
RIGHHHTTTTT NOOWWWWW You want him to turn into an unemotional slab of iron, which is the archetype for all proper american men of course! If you allow this to continue he might have feelings *GASP, THE HORROR!*, and want to talk things out instead of punching someone in the face to solve issues. This is incredibly serious, and something you need to nip in the bud!
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