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my son has a good friend who's way advanced at reading, math.etc.
they are both 6 year old. my son is a "normal" kid, meaning
he's at this level at reading, math..etc. but the friend, I would call him
gifted. my son does tend to not like to read as much as the friend,
so occasionally, I do encourage him to learn from his friend who loves
to read. however, I don't want my son to feel as though he's less liked or
less valued, or less whatever by me from me encouraging him
to learn from his good friend to love reading.
for more information, my son has other talents that are more advanced
then the friend, like social skills, friendliness and language learning skills...etc.
so I do tell my son that everyone has something that they are good at.
what's the best way to approach this or not say anything at all even though
the friend is more advanced and loves academics?
thank you.
I'm not sure what you are asking. No matter who you are there is always someone who is better (or worse), smarter (or not), wealthier (or poorer) ....Each of us has our gifts and our obligation (IMO) is to do the best we can with what we have - it may mean in some areas we have to work harder than someone else. It also means, we can appreciate the gifts that others have without being jealous or petty. The world could not function if we all talented in the same way.
I wouldn't say anything. Let the friendship develop. Kids can have friends who are of differing academic ability.
My oldest son (16) is really really smart (straight As, honors/AP). He is college bound and looking at very selective colleges. His closest friend is a fellow football player who is in remedial classes and will not be continuing his education past high school. I think they are very good influences on each other. Since they became friends at an older age (14-when they were freshmen) I was not around to see the friendship start. However, they are close and rely on each other for different things. My son's friend reminds him that there is more to life than your grades. My son reminds his friend that sometimes you need to focus on a longer term goal. They balance each other nicely.
Just leave your son and his friend to develop their own relationship.
I wouldn't say anything. Let the friendship develop. Kids can have friends who are of differing academic ability.
My oldest son (16) is really really smart (straight As, honors/AP). He is college bound and looking at very selective colleges. His closest friend is a fellow football player who is in remedial classes and will not be continuing his education past high school. I think they are very good influences on each other. Since they became friends at an older age (14-when they were freshmen) I was not around to see the friendship start. However, they are close and rely on each other for different things. My son's friend reminds him that there is more to life than your grades. My son reminds his friend that sometimes you need to focus on a longer term goal. They balance each other nicely.
Just leave your son and his friend to develop their own relationship.
^^^^^ what she said.
Tried to rep you, Momma-Bear but it says I have to "spread reps around" before repping you again. Great post!!!!!
why do anything? have your son hang around more kids like his current friend. momma_bear makes good points too. your son will be driven by his friend to do better, and it will be a positive influence. don't instill jealousy in your 6-year-old son.
Sounds like a normal friendship to me. All friends have their differences in strengths and weaknesses. Nothing wrong with that. Who wants a clone for a good friend. Shoot, my best friend and I are night and day but we have been like sisters for over 25 years and I love her almost as much as Oprah loves Gail.
Just let their friendship happen organically and you will see they will have no issues with these differences. They may even become life long friends.
Last edited by Kathleen1971; 12-13-2010 at 05:34 PM..
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