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Originally Posted by Hopes
It's crazy for people to assume that she's depressed about the loss of a brother/sister if she never met him/her. She's two years old!
All she knows and cares about is how things are with mom and dad. Mom and dad need to realize that changes in THEIR behavior are most likely causing changes in her behavior.
As for my comments about parents putting their problems aside for their children, I stand by that too. It needed to be said.
I know someone who had two children prior to losing their third as an infant. The living children suffered miserably because the parents only thought of their own emotional needs.
It was the saddest thing I ever saw.
My mother went through it at an older age. Her brother died and she became invisible to her parents.
Parents need to think of their living children first when these things happen. Afterall, the living children are living!
I said they need to pull it together----because they do!
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These are very harsh comments. The toddler may not have a clear understanding of what happened, or a physical relationship with the baby, but at that age a toddler is an emotional sponge. You can absolutlely guarantee that all of these sleep issues are directly related to the parents grief.
That said, suggesting someone pull themselves together is just.....beyond words. Loss of a child is considered to be the worst emotional distress a person can experience. Everyone responds differently, but it takes time. Time and support.
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