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18 years ago I happened to get pregnant. I was 38 years old at the time. I never really had the burning desire to have kids, but I did not have anything against it. I had a beautiful baby boy in 1993 and knew pure joy for the first time when they placed him in my arms. His dad passed away from a sudden illness when our son was 8. Since then, it has been tough but I am so thankful for the experience.
My beautiful baby boy will be graduating with honors next week.
Congratulations! Sounds like you raised a great son.
I knew these great people who adopted special needs kids. Severely, multiply impaired, medically fragile children. I knew the Mother well enough after several years to ask her why she adopted these particular kids--she said that they gave her more happiness, love, and joy, and a whole new perspective on the true meaning of happiness.
She and her husband are wonderful people, who make me feel very humble and self-centered. I am fortunate enough to have known her, and spend time with her family. She has adopted 4 children, and they foster others as needed.
The last child they adopted was a child who had been shaken...a normal baby--now deaf, blind, with brain damage, and spinal injuries. A lucky child to go to a family who wants to help him grow and learn to his fullest potential...
But really, you started a thread about parents talking down to the "child free" and then you post this unsolicited piece of info in a thread that's completely irrelevant to your circumstances.
Reading other threads here, I've seen numerous references to "unselfish reasons" for having children. Other than "I want to have children" (selfish) or "I happened to get pregnant" (not selfish but not selfless either) I've never seen a reason to have children that was truly altruistic.
Discuss.
It is not the reasons that we argue, but the motivation of the heart. Two couples can have reasons for wanting children, but one can be pure as one can be selfish. In other words, you can tell me to do something and I can give you a thousand reasons to why I would not do it. Conclusion? Motivation.
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