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My rising Junior made basketball this year- he played alot in elementary but really loves basbeball and is a great baseball player but most of his friends play 2 sports so they talked him into trying out and he made it- It starts tonight and he is already complaining about it ruining summer- but it's only in June along with baseball- -he should be a good player since he is very tall- has never loved many practices except baseball-I told him that he needs to tough it out and stay with it and if he doesn't like it enough not to try out next year- which I think he will do- any other suggestions?? No Dad here to give him advice.....
I'd do some quick research and show him a few of the great baseball players who also played 2 sports in high school. Then I'd remind him that his friends are the ones he owes ti stick it out for one month. Plus the agility needed to play basketball will only help him with baseball....quick moves make those great catches and double plays!
I have mixed feelings. On the one hand, kids shouldn't be forced to play sports if they don't want to participate. On the other hand, sounds like he's made a commitment to the team, and it's not very responsible to back out now. He hasn't even had a chance to see if it will "ruin" summer. I'd tell him to tough it out for this year.
Eh, I'm on the fence. You don't want him to be overwhelmed, but at the same time, he did try out for the team, made a commitment, probably took the spot of someone else who would have liked to make it. Also, why has this "ruined" summer when he hasn't even been to a single practice? Was he not aware of the practice schedule before he tried out?
I would also take into account whether this is a one-time thing from a generally responsible, mature kid who sets goals and works for them, or a pattern of flaking when the going gets tough. Does he have other things he wishes to do this summer where he genuinely won't have enough time to fit it all in, or will it just interfere with his schedule of sitting around eating chips and playing video games?
I can see both sides and I don't feel strongly either way, but I might encourage him to stick this out for the remainder of the season unless you truly feel he would be overwhelmed. He can always choose not to participate next year. Maybe he needs to learn the lesson of keeping commitments you make.
My rising Junior made basketball this year- he played alot in elementary but really loves basbeball and is a great baseball player but most of his friends play 2 sports so they talked him into trying out and he made it- It starts tonight and he is already complaining about it ruining summer- but it's only in June along with baseball- -he should be a good player since he is very tall- has never loved many practices except baseball-I told him that he needs to tough it out and stay with it and if he doesn't like it enough not to try out next year- which I think he will do- any other suggestions?? No Dad here to give him advice.....
Playing multiple sports in high school is difficult. My son has been playing football, wrestling, lacrosse, and weightlifting. Many high school coaches are not good about sharing their players over the summer.
If it were my son and he had tried out, made a commitment, and taken the spot of another kid who wanted to play I would make him stick out the summer.
What does your son mean when he says it is "ruining" his summer? Is he just irritated that he can't sit home all day and do nothing, or is it actually ruining his chance to do something productive?
thanks- I seriously think he is not ready for all of the running that basketball
requires and his friends always lose 10 pounds or so -just something to complain about-I am glad that he is doing it- less time to get in trouble!! I plan to ma ke him follow through-I've told him all of these things!!
My rising Junior made basketball this year- he played alot in elementary but really loves basbeball and is a great baseball player but most of his friends play 2 sports so they talked him into trying out and he made it- It starts tonight and he is already complaining about it ruining summer- but it's only in June along with baseball- -he should be a good player since he is very tall- has never loved many practices except baseball-I told him that he needs to tough it out and stay with it and if he doesn't like it enough not to try out next year- which I think he will do- any other suggestions?? No Dad here to give him advice.....
I'm going to go in a slightly different direction.
If he's already complaining about basketball "ruining" his summer, he's not going to be much of an asset to the team. The players who want to play do not look at practice as something to suffer through. They want to practice. They want to be with the team. They want the coach to coach them on how to be a better player. On how to build a great team.
My guess is with that attitude he's not going to be someone the coach OR the other players want on the team.
I'm going to go in a slightly different direction.
If he's already complaining about basketball "ruining" his summer, he's not going to be much of an asset to the team. The players who want to play do not look at practice as something to suffer through. They want to practice. They want to be with the team. They want the coach to coach them on how to be a better player. On how to build a great team.
My guess is with that attitude he's not going to be someone the coach OR the other players want on the team.
Very good point, we've all seen and been on teams where people were "forced" to do it. A good coach wants people whose hearts and minds are in the game. Even someone with a lot of talent who isn't into it, or doesn't really want to put in the effort, tends to drag a team down.
I'm reminded of the Alan Iverson scandal..."but, it's just practice." As talented as he was, he didn't really need the practice, but that wasn't the point.
So, while my general response would be that if he made a commitment and joined the team (most likely taking someone else's spot) he needs to follow through with that commitment. However, if he is not willing to give it his all and "do his duty" in regards to that commitment, it may be better off for him to quit.
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