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I hope my sister has learned a lesson. Myself and my mother have been telling her for years that you can't speak to your kids like that. She's in a horrible, abusive marriage and the kids are out of control, but that's no excuse IMO. I wish that the CPS worker had mandated some type of anger-management therapy or a parenting-skills class.
One also hopes eldest learned a lesson. It would be a real shame for everyone if that child and her siblings were forcibly removed from the home over an incident that started with being unhelpful and bratty over not getting a new bathing suit.
Well, the OP did ask "do you swear at your kids." Not everyone is the parent of a four year old.
OK....I don't think that anywhere in that post it said that everyone is the parent of a four year old, and my response did answer the OP's question. Try reading it again.
I don't swear at my kids. I don't swear at all (I'm very soft-spoken and I think my kids would faint if they heard a swear word coming from my mouth) but if I did swear, I can't imagine swearing at them.
That said, my sister has a potty mouth and last month it resulted in a visit from CPS.
She was stressed out because she was packing for vacation and her kids wouldn't help. Then, her oldest asked her to take her to the mall to buy a new bathing suit. Well, she lost it and started swearing---F-word, C-word, B-word, everything you could imagine.
My niece stealthy dialed 911 and put the phone down so that it picked up everything my sister was saying. Within 10 minutes there were three police vehicles in her driveway.
The cops took my nieces aside and asked if they felt safe (the radio dispatcher had heard my sister threaten to beat them). They left without taking the kids but contacted CPS who made a follow up visit to talk to my nieces and evaluate the household to make sure they were safe.
I hope my sister has learned a lesson. Myself and my mother have been telling her for years that you can't speak to your kids like that. She's in a horrible, abusive marriage and the kids are out of control, but that's no excuse IMO. I wish that the CPS worker had mandated some type of anger-management therapy or a parenting-skills class.
I'm guessing swearing is the least of your sister's problems.
OK....I don't think that anywhere in that post it said that everyone is the parent of a four year old, and my response did answer the OP's question. Try reading it again.
Sometimes a post is a merely jumping off point, and not a personal message.
One also hopes eldest learned a lesson. It would be a real shame for everyone if that child and her siblings were forcibly removed from the home over an incident that started with being unhelpful and bratty over not getting a new bathing suit.
Wow, compassionate much? This problem didn't 'start' with bathing suit incident. These children are apparently living in an abusive, dysfunctional household. Children live what they see. I hope they do get out of it. Sadly, when parents don't step up, the system can step in. And once that happens there is seldom a happy ending.
Sometimes a post is a merely jumping off point, and not a personal message.
Do you swear at YOUR kids seems to be asking posters a direct question about THEIR personal situation, which several posters seem to get and are responding to. You're free to your own interpretation and so is everyone else.
Wow, compassionate much? This problem didn't 'start' with bathing suit incident. These children are apparently living in an abusive, dysfunctional household. Children live what they see. I hope they do get out of it. Sadly, when parents don't step up, the system can step in. And once that happens there is seldom a happy ending.
The child called 911 then laid down the phone. Dispatchers are required to send a unit to respond because it's impossible to tell what's going on other than yelling. Police are required to ask children if they feel safe if there is any question of a domestic situation.
The police didn't make an independent decision to take the kids, which they could have done if they felt it was warranted. CPS following up could be anything from warranted to "cover my ass", and is generally performed whether or not there's cause. They didn't take the kids either.
There have been many, many stories of children calling CPS (and even more threatening) because they're fighting with Mom or Dad, because they didn't get their way, because they had to do homework or chores. There's a link to one in this forum as we speak.
The poster even pointed out that "the kids wouldn't help" and "granted, the kids are out of control". She said her sister "has a potty mouth", not that she knocks the kids around or forgets to feed them/take them to the doctor. So no, I'm not envisioning some poor, downtrodden, sad-eyed waif here, no matter what my opinion is of Mom (and "the kids are out of control" doesn't exactly endear her to me).
If, by "compassionate much?", do I automatically agree with your assessment of situations? Nope, guess not.
Do you swear at YOUR kids seems to be asking posters a direct question about THEIR personal situation, which several posters seem to get and are responding to. You're free to your own interpretation and so is everyone else.
Yes, I am aware of that. But thank you everso for your permission. It means a lot to me.
I have to admit I have had the occasional slip in front of my daughter and when I got really mad I did say something to the effect of "I don't understand why the F you think that was ok to do" I'm not perfect nor do I expect anyone else to be perfect. We all make the occasional mistake and I don't consider myself a horrible parent or an uneducated low life for saying the F word in front of my daughter or saying it when really mad either.
Now if I constantly berated my daughter with foul language then yes that is a different story.
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