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Take him to a neurologist. Maybe he is having migraines or something else is going on. Good luck.
This. My 13yo has had migraines for several years...come upon him suddenly, usually end with a puking spell. We control it to a certain extent with Maxalt medication.
They have lessened significantly over the last 2 years, but he still gets them from time to time. With him, the key is to keep him hydrated and nibbling on something (snacks) so his stomach isn't empty for hours at a time.
Lots of school, I want to say about 20 days last year, and that's only because he's pushed through it on the other 40 days that he's complained about it. No, he does not become ill. He just lays around the house (literally, he was just laying across the coffee table before I sent him to the store), does the school work that he's missing. No TV, except for the PBS or Disney that's already on for his little sister. I am strickt on that, and no playing after school either. I do let him do whatever sport he is currently doing if he can push through it, but its usually a feeble attempt. He would, however, not have a problem whatsoever with missing it.
A few questions: You don't let him play after school? Ever? And PBS are the only channels on TV you let him watch? Or is that just when he's sick? I'm a little confused.
Does he get a chance to just hang with his friends or are organized sports the only outside activity he gets? Who chooses his sports?
A few questions: You don't let him play after school? Ever? And PBS are the only channels on TV you let him watch? Or is that just when he's sick? I'm a little confused.
Does he get a chance to just hang with his friends or are organized sports the only outside activity he gets? Who chooses his sports?
No, nobody is locking anyone inside without friends or activities, and restricting TV viewing to PBS at 11 years old on an everyday basis..... when he's home "sick" from school, his choices are restricted (ie, he can't watch TV, it just HAPPENS to be on sometimes for my 3 year old).
No, nobody is locking anyone inside without friends or activities, and restricting TV viewing to PBS at 11 years old on an everyday basis..... when he's home "sick" from school, his choices are restricted (ie, he can't watch TV, it just HAPPENS to be on sometimes for my 3 year old).
Ok. I just wasn't clear on that which is why I asked. Sorry you had to slap yourself on the noggin.
But I will ask one more question since you've already slapped yourself (and what have we got to loose?): How much is on his plate? Does he have a lot of scheduled activities? How much time does he have to just laze around the house and do absolutely nothing?
other than school, he does one sport at a time, but continuous. That is usually a big commitment, thought.
My two cents: I'd look into the anxeity before I drug him to a whole lot of other doctor appointments. (Mainly because if he does have anxeity it is going to get worse if he thinks there's something wrong with him or if he has to sit in waiting room after waiting room.)
Is he a perfectionist? More important: Does he think you or his father expect him to be perfect? (Even if you don't. Does he think that?)
One other thing: Do not think he'll tell you everything. No matter how close you may be. If he suffers from anxeity he'll hold it all in. He won't want YOU to worry so he won't tell you that life is bothering him.
Did you say he say a psychiatrist and he didn't open up? Try another therapist. I feel for you. I'm sure you are very worried.
Just for kicks: Ask him if he'd like to drop the sports for a while. See what his reaction is. If there's any feeling of "It would be a relief to" it might be a big clue. Some kids with anxeity don't do well with being over-scheduled. (Which is why I brought up the "just doing nothing" question".)
My two cents: I'd look into the anxeity before I drug him to a whole lot of other doctor appointments. (Mainly because if he does have anxeity it is going to get worse if he thinks there's something wrong with him or if he has to sit in waiting room after waiting room.)
Is he a perfectionist? More important: Does he think you or his father expect him to be perfect? (Even if you don't. Does he think that?)
One other thing: Do not think he'll tell you everything. No matter how close you may be. If he suffers from anxeity he'll hold it all in. He won't want YOU to worry so he won't tell you that life is bothering him.
Did you say he say a psychiatrist and he didn't open up? Try another therapist. I feel for you. I'm sure you are very worried.
Just for kicks: Ask him if he'd like to drop the sports for a while. See what his reaction is. If there's any feeling of "It would be a relief to" it might be a big clue. Some kids with anxeity don't do well with being over-scheduled. (Which is why I brought up the "just doing nothing" question".)
I think this is a really good point. Even today at 31, when I get home from work I REALLY don't want to do ANYTHING else. I want to relax, do some reading, some writing- I don't want to be dragged off to even 'fun' things. Some kids benefit from sports and organized activities, and some really just need downtime. For them, school is work- if the sport feels like work too because of the time and commitment, taking a break from school (even if it means no good TV) is still going to feel like a mini vacation.
My 11 year old son consistently complains about stomach aches, headaches, neauseau. His doctor doesnt' seem to concerned. In my opinion, he does suffer from anxiety, as his father does as well in social situations. But when I discuss his feelings with him, he doesn't let on to any emotional problems. His only reaction is probably frustration at my constanct questionsn of .... did something happen on the bus, at school, at recess, lunch, gym, do you have a test, quiz, have to read outloud, etc, etc. I even get annoyed at how many times I'm asking these same questions, its always, no, no , no. I really think its not something that is happening, I think its something either internal (general anxiety) or am worried about something physical. He is active, athletic, and bright. He usually misses a lot of school because of this in the last few years. He has missed one practice for the first time last week, in all his years of doing sports. He has complained about headaches during sports, but I do think that's because of dehydration/heat and we just made sure we made him drink more, but he played through it.
Any suggestions at what tests I should be asking for?
Maybe he needs glasses. My son gets horrible headaches when his eyes change and needs a new prescription. He is the same age.
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.... when he's home "sick" from school, his choices are restricted (ie, he can't watch TV, it just HAPPENS to be on sometimes for my 3 year old).
