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I have always had it in my heart to adopt. At a very young age I decided I want to adopt as many children as possible. I came to this conclusion long before I relized I was gay. I've never thought it would change my ability to be a parent until recently. I had a very heated discussion with my parents who adviced me to not bring up a child into "my lifestyle". They also stated I would cause the child/children extreme emotional trama and me raising a child would be the worst thing possible.
Please, no bigotry comments. I've gotten enough of that this week. Just honest opions. Is a loving and stable home not enough?
I agree, your parents are bigots.
Being a great parent has NOTHING to do with your sexual preference.
Please do continue on the path to adoption...there are kids out there who need families! <3
I have always had it in my heart to adopt. At a very young age I decided I want to adopt as many children as possible. I came to this conclusion long before I relized I was gay. I've never thought it would change my ability to be a parent until recently. I had a very heated discussion with my parents who adviced me to not bring up a child into "my lifestyle". They also stated I would cause the child/children extreme emotional trama and me raising a child would be the worst thing possible.
Please, no bigotry comments. I've gotten enough of that this week. Just honest opions. Is a loving and stable home not enough?
Your parents words are heartbreaking, but it is only their opinion. If you can provide a safe and loving environment for a child, you are already doing better than many biological parents.
Yup, nothing but support here. I don't understand people who think kids are better off being shuffled between foster homes than with somebody who will provide stability and love.
A person's sexual orientation has nothing to do with their parenting skills.
Now, if be "lifestyle" they meant a revolving door on your bedroom, that could be an issue. But that's not an orientation issue either.
I'm sorry they said that to you
Ha No, no revolving door on my bedroom. I am in a relationship and do not plan to have children till she is completely finished with her education. I believe kids need consistancy so I want to make certain she is who I am going to spend my life with and that our lives are stable.
Ha No, no revolving door on my bedroom. I am in a relationship and do not plan to have children till she is completely finished with her education. I believe kids need consistancy so I want to make certain she is who I am going to spend my life with and that our lives are stable.
I have always had it in my heart to adopt. At a very young age I decided I want to adopt as many children as possible. I came to this conclusion long before I relized I was gay. I've never thought it would change my ability to be a parent until recently. I had a very heated discussion with my parents who adviced me to not bring up a child into "my lifestyle". They also stated I would cause the child/children extreme emotional trama and me raising a child would be the worst thing possible.
Please, no bigotry comments. I've gotten enough of that this week. Just honest opions. Is a loving and stable home not enough?
You've told us only two things about yourself: you are gay, and you want children. Based only on those, no one can possibly know what kind of home you could provide.
You're asking for honest opinions, but then you qualify that to say you want honest opinions only of people who agree with and support you, and anyone who disagrees is a bigot.
I hope that eventually you and your parents will be able to discuss this topic without the "heat." Just as they need to be able to accept you, you also need to be able to accept them. They may have given their "honest opinion," and you didn't like it.
Assuming you are independent of them, this is your decision. If you do adopt, your parents will probably drop their opposition as soon as the child arrives. Grandparents tend to do that.
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