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I would be a little disappointed if I wasn't a grandmother but I wouldn't try to push my children to have kids if they choose not to have them. I can always spoil my nieces & nephews children if I really wanted someone to spoil.
I'd be fine with it and completely understand. I know how hard it is to have a child and to put my pressure on her for the simple fact that I'd want a grandchild. Thats def a personal decision
From day 1 I told all 4 of my kids, especially my daughters that you can have a full and meaningful life without ever getting married or having children. I would much rather they have a childfree life than a life with children if their hearts weren't 110% into being a parent. it makes me sad to hear my friends browbeat their kids to give them grandchildren. It is such a personal decision.
You know, the PC thing to say would of course be, "It's their decision, their life, their choice." Which of course is true, I certainly could not force my children to have kids of their own.
It might even be the right "parental" thing to say, that I would be ok with it. But in all honesty, I'd be really sad about it. I would support their decision, because they would be adults at that point and who am I to say anyone is wrong in their choice, but at least once I'd have to tell them that my opinion is that they might be missing out on something wonderful.
Some people really aren't meant to be parents, and some people really don't want kids, and there is nothing at all wrong with that. There would be nothing wrong if any of my kids decided that either. But I'd be lying if I didn't say that I would be sad and disappointed, those would be MY feelings, though. I'd have to respect THEIR feelings.
I just think having kids is so wonderful and challenging and brings a whole dimension to my own life. I do secretly (maybe not so secretly now) hope that they all want children also.
I have no great urge to be a grandparent. I'm sure if I end up with grandchildren I will adore them, but I don't put them in the same realm as having my own children, who I knew I wanted.
Whatever my kids decide will honestly be fine by me.
I would rather that they thoughtfully don't have kids than carelessly have kids that they did not want.
Well put.
I think it would depend on whether it meant I was never going to be a grandparent or if it was only one of my 2 kids that said that. I honestly don't think I'd be all that upset. I hope I can make the most of my later year with or without grand kids.
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