How would you feel about having a transgender child? (parents, girl, son)
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I am curious about the issue of parents with transgender children. Especially parents that are used to traditional gender roles. As a parent, how would you react to your son, who is in his early 20's, wanting to act on his transgender desires? Would it be accepted by you or would you disown him?
I'm just curious, are you in this situation? Either the parent or child?
I would not disown my child for being transgender. They are who they are, and I would love them.
I hope you understand that a person forced/blackmailed by family to not be true to themselves does not mean they are no longer transgender, just that they are hiding/suppressing it.
How prevalent is transgender in society's youth? 1 in 100? 1 in 500?
Is transgender essentially cross-dressing 24/7? And is going through with the reassignment surgery then transsexualism? A friend of mine who is fairly liberal once told me that he was standing at a copy machine at work in a large company and that a woman there was in line behind him to use the machine. He got a better look at her and saw huge hands and an Adam's Apple. He said it was jarring, because he had never paid attention to her and got caught off guard. He wasn't judging, just observing.
Is there any psychological point of reference as to what makes a kid transgender? I think this would be a good point of departure.
I would say that being transgender goes way farther than simply cross dressing. It is taking on the characteristics and gender roles of the opposite sex. I met a woman that dressed in men's clothing because she seen it as empowerment. In her mind, dressing like a man would give her more power over women assuming that she thinks women are weaker than men. Funny thing is, she wasn't gay. So back to square one, transgender goes far beyond simply cross-dressing.
A friend of mine who is fairly liberal once told me that he was standing at a copy machine at work in a large company and that a woman there was in line behind him to use the machine. He got a better look at her and saw huge hands and an Adam's Apple. He said it was jarring, because he had never paid attention to her and got caught off guard. He wasn't judging, just observing.
Judging a book by it's cover is never wise. All humans have an Adam's Apple, it's just that men usually have larger ones, but women can have large Adam's Apples too.
Someone who is trans-gendered has a gender identity that does not match their assigned sex. They can identify as male, female, neither, both, or "fluid" (sometimes male, sometimes female, or sometimes a mixture of both).
I think the best thing is for parents to always love & accept their children for who they are.
& I wouldn't call someone expressing who they really are "acting on trans-gender desires." That is really over-simplifying it.
Funny thing is, she wasn't gay. So back to square one, transgender goes far beyond simply cross-dressing.
Yes, gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Someone who is trans-gendered can be gay, straight, bi, pansexual, asexual, etc. I agree with Zimbo that it is best to never judge a book by its cover.
early 20's is an adult, free to make their own decisions. I would not approve, but I would certainly not disown. I'm sure my children will do many things that I disapprove of, my love will be unconditional.
I thought you meant a child, and I will admit that I have a total double standard for that. I have seen that, a 7 year old boy that was transgendered, fully dressed, earings, and hair, with a girl name, and I thought the parents were off their rocker. Yet I have I've got a girl that wears basketball pants and baseball jerseys all the time, hair in a baseball hat, plays boys sports. But I'm certainly not letting her get a crew cut and change her name to Joe. And I would not allow my son to wear a dress or take up ballet. Thank God my total bias and double standards for which I have no logical explanation do not bother my son in the least.
5 fingers and 5 toes? I think my response would be "oh".
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