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My husband keeps saying: "mommy to the rescue"! in a snide way... It drives me crazy, as it is very insulting in my opinion. I don't come to the rescue of anything, I just come to see what is going on when he cannot handle the kids! or he is flat out mean to my 3 year old.
Does your husband say that to you? or makes other snide remarks? is there a way to handle that or is it lawyer time?
sounds to me like he resents your interfering when he is in charge of the child. Agreeing on how to discipline or handle a child can be fraught with tension and cause arguments. Sounds like you need a counselor more than a lawyer.
Sounds like he thinks your being undermining and over-bearing. As long as he isn't being abusive (and it's his child) then you shouldn't interfere. The relationship that he is creating with the child is the one he is going to have to deal with once that child is an adult.
My husband keeps saying: "mommy to the rescue"! in a snide way... It drives me crazy, as it is very insulting in my opinion. I don't come to the rescue of anything, I just come to see what is going on when he cannot handle the kids! or he is flat out mean to my 3 year old.
Does your husband say that to you? or makes other snide remarks? is there a way to handle that or is it lawyer time?
My husband keeps saying: "mommy to the rescue"! in a snide way... It drives me crazy, as it is very insulting in my opinion. I don't come to the rescue of anything, I just come to see what is going on when he cannot handle the kids! or he is flat out mean to my 3 year old.
Does your husband say that to you? or makes other snide remarks? is there a way to handle that or is it lawyer time?
Thank you.
it sounds like you constantly interfere when he is parenting your child, which signals mistrust. if that is so, then i dont think "mommy to the rescue" is as bad as what you are doing. do you not like his method of parenting? (sounds like you dont) becuase that the bigger issue. you doing that in front of child teaches him that you are really the one in charge, and could cause problems in the future.
If you're thinking "lawyer" over this I'd say there are probably a ton of other problems in your marriage. (Most people don't think lawyer as their first response to what a spouse says.) You might want to think about what those are.
And remember you have a child who will be affected it it's "lawyer time".
I guess it just depends on how he is saying it. It's hard to "hear" that on the internet. If your child fell down and scraped his knee and way crying, "mommy to the rescue" would be a good thing knowing that your son likes it when you kiss his boo boo's. If it's said in a snide tone meaning you think your DH can't handle doing whatever he is doing--say giving your son a bath--then I would say the issue is your issue and not your DH's.
Maybe you should talk to him if he is being mean to the 3yr old but after the child is not in the same room. Tape record him when you hear something that should not be said. Maybe he does not know that he is doing it. We all have bad days where you just need to step away and sometimes we as parents do not do that when we should. You are great mother but your husband is trying to help you by the way it sounds and spend time with the children. Sit back in another room with ear buds on and do not pay attention to what is going on unless it is very destructive to your child.
I would also question is this his child also or only yours? Spend sometime on a date night with your husband and reconnect even if you cannot find a babysitter. You can always have a date night after the child goes to sleep or takes a nap.
I have to agree with the majority. You don't seem to trust him with YOUR child...and he resents it.
It will also teach the child that he doesn't have to listen to him.
Sounds like you need to sit and actually talk about it and find a solution.
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