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This past Sunday as we were eating dinner my wife wanted to watch a stupid Lifetime movie. I was already watching an interesting show on Netflix about migrating birds, but I took it that more entertaining (and educational) viewing was in order. The movie was about this deeply religious woman who was up for this "Woman of the Year" award in her church. I believe the church was Catholic. Anyway the church officials wanted to meet the woman's family which consisted of her husband who was a recovering alcoholic (10 years sober), her son who just left his wife and children, and her daughter who was a lesbian, 5 months pregnant, and was planning to marry her girlfriend. During the movie my wife asks my 15 year old daughter "Would you think I would love you less if you told me you are gay?" My daughter answered no. Then she asks "What about your father?" She said "Dad would never talk to me again." My wife then says to me "Did you hear what your daughter just said?" I replied "Yes." She then asked "Well how do you respond to what she just said?" I stated that it was not a real situation, and that I would find her telling me she is gay hard to deal with. And with that (honest) answer she is upset with me because I didn't give the standard "I will love you no matter what" answer. I once again reminded her that her question is hypothetical, and its not like I said I would disown her, but that did not seem to matter. Why do (some) women ruin a perfectly good evening at home over what if questions?
Interesting how you manage to twist the fact that you an AH into somehow being your wife's fault.
I didn't recall asking the question. I was put on the spot and gave an honest answer. Of course I love my Daughter no matter what, but because that was not the lead statement some kind of crime seems to have been committed based on a "What if" question. Unconditional love is a different subject. The question (I heard) was "Your daughter made a choice in her life and do readily accept it?" My honest answer was not no, but it would be hard to accept. How does that make me the AH?
Is this a question about whether people accept their gay children? (Covered in a thousand threads already.)
Is this really a question about "why women ruin a perfectly good evening?" You asked it, but why is this in the Parenting forum? This sounds like a Relationships question, beginning with how you feel the need to belittle your wife to strangers.
I didn't recall asking the question. I was put on the spot and gave an honest answer. Of course I love my Daughter no matter what, but because that was not the lead statement some kind of crime seems to have been committed based on a "What if" question. Unconditional love is a different subject. The question (I heard) was "Your daughter made a choice in her life and do readily accept it?" My honest answer was not no, but it would be hard to accept. How does that make me the AH?
Then you heard wrong ... I think they were saying "What if your daughter was born gay, would you still love her?"
I didn't recall asking the question. I was put on the spot and gave an honest answer. Of course I love my Daughter no matter what, but because that was not the lead statement some kind of crime seems to have been committed based on a "What if" question. Unconditional love is a different subject. The question (I heard) was "Your daughter made a choice in her life and do readily accept it?" My honest answer was not no, but it would be hard to accept. How does that make me the AH?
You posted a thread. Were we just supposed to read it and marvel at your greatness? That's not how forums work. I think you are just trying to be provocative as you know many people are going to have a problem with your statement "Your daughter made a choice in her life and do (sic) readily accept it?", but you knew that. From the get-go your intentions were less than honoroable.
When would be a good time to let your children know that you love them unconditionally? Should they make an appointment? I would have thought that was an ongoing type of discussion.
Your wife "interrupted you" because she wanted to feel that she and her child were secure and loved in the family they built with you. Sorry if your family reaching out for love "ruins" or "interrupts" your night. Bummer.
Is this a question about whether people accept their gay children? (Covered in a thousand threads already.)
Is this really a question about "why women ruin a perfectly good evening?" You asked it, but why is this in the Parenting forum? This sounds like a Relationships question, beginning with how you feel the need to belittle your wife to strangers.
Well to answer the first question I don't have questions about people accepting their gay children as I don't believe that to be my issue. I posed the question here because it involved my daughter. Therefore I guess I would have to agree with you and that this is more of a relationship question although I do fail to see where I'm belittling my wife to strangers.
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