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It is totally absolutely necessary to travel kids-free SEVERAL times a year to maintain your sanity and enjoyment of life, if you have good close relatives to leave your baby with. Our kids are our blood suckers, and we need time to regain our strenght. When they are 4-5 years old, it becomes much more fun traveling together, but better wait till they are 7-8.
It is not absolutely necessary. Millions of couples manage to survive with no more than an occasional night out or weekend away, if that.
Didn't read the whole thread, just the initial question. This is gonna be harsh but you should've never gotten pregnant and I really feel sorry for that kid when he/she realizes that his/her mom puts herself first. That child is going to have a hard life.
If you have parents, grandparents, or other relatives that are willing to babysit the kid I say go ahead, spend a week or two in Paris when you want to.
But if they're not willing - the responsibility's on you with that kid. Check the stroller on the plane and take him/her with you if going to Paris is that important. Paris is a 1st world city - you can handle a baby there.
Although I agree with the others - more than 4-5 days away when the baby is <18 months doesn't sound like a good idea. After that a couple weeks with the grandparents is probably fine.
Last edited by redguard57; 05-23-2014 at 04:27 PM..
It is not absolutely necessary. Millions of couples manage to survive with no more than an occasional night out or weekend away, if that.
That doesn't mean it's not necessary for some couples. Everyone has different psychological makeup and some children are more draining than others.
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Originally Posted by Kibbiekat
I don't know where people find the time to travel as much as some are suggesting with kids or without. Don't they work?
It's not difficult for people who have 3 to 5 weeks of vacation or are self employed. We often took 3 vacations a year as a family and my husband and I would do two long weekends a year alone. One vacation was the big vacation, and the other two were camping vacations at various places throughout the country. For families with higher incomes, I'm sure three non-camping vacations would have been possible.
I get about 6 weeks a year in total and I'm losing days right and left. My kid has gotten sick a number of times (SAHPs probably don't have to deal with this), so I've used days for that. Then I've been carting her everywhere to see family, which I don't consider a vacation. Then I've taken some mental health days to get myself together (cleaning, laundry, shopping).
That doesn't mean it's not necessary for some couples. Everyone has different psychological makeup and some children are more draining than others.
It's not difficult for people who have 3 to 5 weeks of vacation or are self employed. We often took 3 vacations a year as a family and my husband and I would do two long weekends a year alone. One vacation was the big vacation, and the other two were camping vacations at various places throughout the country. For families with higher incomes, I'm sure three non-camping vacations would have been possible.
Give me a break. The poster said it is "absolutely necessary." He didn't say "for some couples." Most people can't afford to vacation at all. Of those who can, most can't take the time to vacation "several times a year." No one is dropping dead from it.
I get about 6 weeks a year in total and I'm losing days right and left. My kid has gotten sick a number of times (SAHPs probably don't have to deal with this), so I've used days for that. Then I've been carting her everywhere to see family, which I don't consider a vacation. Then I've taken some mental health days to get myself together (cleaning, laundry, shopping).
I hope we can squeeze some alone family time in.
My vacation time took a big hit this year. The kids were sick a lot more than usual.
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