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It isn't. I left one of mine after he had given up breastfeeding for the most part. Sometimes he would be interested, but not often. I don't know if it was guilt over leaving him, or just bad luck, but within 24 hours of leaving the country, I was engorged, and miserable. I had to request a manual pump via sign language.
It isn't. I left one of mine after he had given up breastfeeding for the most part. Sometimes he would be interested, but not often. I don't know if it was guilt over leaving him, or just bad luck, but within 24 hours of leaving the country, I was engorged, and miserable. I had to request a manual pump via sign language.
eta: but, my son was fine!
Aw man... At least he was ok!
I can't imagine why the OP would want to spend a vacation pumping every 4 or so hours. Doesn't sound fun to me.
Just a little background on me: I'm 5 months pregnant with a planned pregnancy. My main passion in life is travelling. So today I was researching trips to Paris...hotels, things to do etc. I got really really into it. Even though I have no plans to visit anytime soon (difficult pregnancy, need to save money for home purchase and impending baby) I still enjoyed planning out this fantasy trip. So I messaged my mom...she is one of my main travel partners...we have made great memories together travelling.
Me: Been really feeling for a Paris trip
Mom: Hahaha. You will make Paris. WE will call her Paris! Doesn't sound bad at all lol!!
Me: Makes me very sad. To think of this child styming my movements. Maybe I can leave them with DH's parents for our trips (I would like DH to come too on trips)
Mom: Are you crazy?? To say what are saying is insulting and disgraceful and more so SELFISH. Stop it!!!
Me: Well I'm a selfish person I guess then. It is one life that I'm living. I'd like to enjoy it.
Mom: RU mad? Everyone has one life to live!!! not just you!! I don't want to listen to this. Why did you get pregnant???Or married for that matter???
Me: You know if I were a man you wouldn't call me selfish. But women are supposed to be self sacrificing. It is thrust upon them.
Mom: You are getting me VERY annoyed
Me: You cannot combat my logic so it annoys you. And your lack of logical argument annoys me!!
This is coming from someone who never thought they would be married much less have children. Neither were part of my dreams - I mean, they were, in a way but.....anyway, fast forward, during my pregnancy, I had so many emotions but when I actually had her (surprise - I didn't know it was a girl!), all my feelings totally changed. I couldn't imagine that I had this beautiful baby girl and I still melt when I think of those moments. Even though she is an adult now, I'll never forget how I felt and what she did to my life - all in a most positive way.
I can't imagine why the OP would want to spend a vacation pumping every 4 or so hours. Doesn't sound fun to me.
Because I really want to go and am prepared to be inconvenienced to make it work.
However I'm still going to be flexible and possibly defer the trip again if it looks like my pumping plan won't work out. I guess I'll see when I'm in the situation.
We're being way too judgmental. I live in a semi-ghetto neighborhood, and this is a rich person's problem compared to what kids in this hood have to go through.
She said the dad will stay home and take care of the child, so the conversation is between herself and him. (If I were him I wouldn't be looking forward to it)
Just the fact that there IS a dad and he is in a stable job is huge. Let's all take a step back and not judge the OP that harshly. She sank money into a Paris guided trip. I think, given what she's indicated about her family, that the baby will be fine for the 10 days she's gone.
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Reason: removed racial remarks
At the end of the day the OP is a real person with real desires and is genuinely asking us if there is anything selfish about having them. The fact is there is nothing wrong with taking a week away - assuming she looks after the needs of the child. I think it is harmful to scaremonger her into feeling guilty by suggesting her choice will harm her child - when you can not back up at all the idea it WILL harm the child.
At the end of the day the OP is a real person with real desires and is genuinely asking us if there is anything selfish about having them. The fact is there is nothing wrong with taking a week away - assuming she looks after the needs of the child. I think it is harmful to scaremonger her into feeling guilty by suggesting her choice will harm her child - when you can not back up at all the idea it WILL harm the child.
I provided the link to the site I referred. I provided the link to why it's a credible source while you bring nothing to source to back your point. You somehow think it's scaremongering, of which you have provided no evidence for other than your opinion.
eta: and I want to make that point clear. If someone disagrees with a statement, doesn't find a sourced link credible, or content from a site to be on par with current literature then make your case. Calling it fear mongering is not a retort. It's just insulting.
Last edited by Jaded; 05-26-2014 at 03:57 PM..
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Until you have the baby.....
