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If a decision needs to be made for your child concerning their health (for instance deciding on a course of treatment e.g. antibiotics) and you and your partner disagree on what is best for the child how do you end up reaching a decision?
That only happened once for us and it was the first time my daughter had a cold. He didn't want me to take her to the doctor but I wanted to and did. She had an ear infection and the doctor prescribed antibiotics.
If there was a legitimate question about treatment, I would listen to what my husband had to say and would also defer to the doctor. But if I thought she needed to go to the doctor for any reason, even a "mother's intuition," I'd take her whether he thought she needed to go or not.
He's disagreeing with the doctor's advice and wants to get a second opinion (from a doctor he knows will agree with him) which seems ridiculous to me for the issue (antibiotics for strep throat). This happens with pretty much every medical decision so we're trying to figure out guidelines for us so we don't argue every time (he actually called child protection services today over this!)
Strep can be very dangerous without treatment. Sorry, but that one is a no-brainer.
Not really.
It is overdiagnosed and has a very low sequelae rate.
Antibiotics for ear infections...also usually over-prescribed.
I know it is easier for me bc I know when it really is time to take something, but as a physician, I pretty much avoid medicating my family. Especially antibiotics. People get antibiotics bc they are patient pleasers. You have no idea how angry people get if you imply they should let their bodies heal themselves. Or that a virus simply takes time. Not to mention this nonsense about how the snot colors mean something, etc.
In 9 years, my wife has taken abx twice. My son once...and I did not really think it was necessary, but I also refuse to treat my family (I just tell them when it is time to see the pediatrician/their doc).
I hurt myself pretty badly 2 weeks ago. Fell off my bike and my back was so messed up I could not straighten out. I could not sit for more than a minute and every position was uncomfortable. Tears in my eyes painful.
I took cayenne, did stretches, heating pad, used my accupressure mat, and ran a 5k 10 days later.
The answer to op is that they need to find a doctor both parents like and trust and go with the third party tie breaker.
We can't find a doctor we both like and trust, we live separately and she sees my local doctors when she's here (which is whatever doctor is available when its an urgent appointment) and his local doctors when she's there.
In a court of law (in the U.S.), they would not accept testimony from someone who is not a recognized expert in the field.
So perhaps that might help a bit - find an expert (ear nose and throat doctor?) and follow that advice. And if neither of you have medical degrees, then neither would be considered "experts"!*
*Many "mothers" are considered experts in my area!
We can't find a doctor we both like and trust, we live separately and she sees my local doctors when she's here (which is whatever doctor is available when its an urgent appointment) and his local doctors when she's there.
Why is she going to the doctor so often that you need two sets of doctors?
Everyone should have a medical home...their one doc or group of docs who knows and follows them for years...who knows them best.
Why is she going to the doctor so often that you need two sets of doctors?
Everyone should have a medical home...their one doc or group of docs who knows and follows them for years...who knows them best.
Well she doesn't go to the doctor that often but in the case of sudden illness like strep throat, ear infections etc. she goes to whichever doctor she is near. She has one paediatrician though where I live but that's not for urgent appointments.
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