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My friend and her ex broke up about 2 years ago. It was a messy breakup but they are civil since they have a son together. My friend's ex sees their son two days a week. (Not on weekends due to work schedules, it changes during the week). He worked various jobs here and there and was behind on child support. My friend decided to help him out, went to court and lowered the amount he pays. Which they did, now he has a stable job and he pays. I am mutual friends with both of them and I have heard him bad mouth her a lot about the whole child support situation.
Note, my friend is the one who ended the relationship and she has moved on. They are civil with each other for the sake of their son. Occasionally, they'll do various things together with their son (like movies, monster truck show etc)
My friend who lives with her parents, recently started getting mail with the name of a female that is apparently seeing her ex (the father of her son). She is sending wedding catalogs, parenting magazines, various catalogs as my friend describes as junk mail. This woman is using her first name with her ex's last name (as if they are already married). She even uses a company name that has their sons and this womans name together (clearly a fake company)(This is for catalogs)
My friend is worried that this woman is mentally unstable and does not want her son around her. The ex denies that they are an item but social media says other wise (Facebook check ins and pictures as well as this woman always commenting on his stuff makes it seems like they are more than friends). My friend has screenshots.
They have a court date coming up for child support and my friend was curious if this kind of evidence can hold up in court.(Supervised visits Im guessing she didnt say what she meant by hold up in court)
She has never had an issue with her ex but this woman is scaring my friend and she is concerned about her son's well being. Any advice?
I told her it might hold up in court but to talk to her ex (she did and he denies it)
sounds like drama. She should ignore it and not feed it. I'm with Mattie. Your friend would be wise to not freak out and just talk things out with the ex. That is, if she wants to keep it civil. Has the ex bf dated much before? How did she feel about those girlfriends?
She's busy with work & school so she doesn't want to focus on dating right now. He seems to have "females" but tries to hide it from her. Not sure why since she doesn't care..so there hasn't been any new women around except this one.
She's concerned because she doesn't know how this new girl got her address. I mean it is creepy that the catalogs have a made up company name using her sons name. (One of them was PattiLovesAdam&William) (William is her sons name, Patti is the new girl and Adam is the Ex)
She's busy with work & school so she doesn't want to focus on dating right now. He seems to have "females" but tries to hide it from her. Not sure why since she doesn't care..so there hasn't been any new women around except this one.
She's concerned because she doesn't know how this new girl got her address. I mean it is creepy that the catalogs have a made up company name using her sons name. (One of them was PattiLovesAdam&William) (William is her sons name, Patti is the new girl and Adam is the Ex)
It really might not be intentional. It might be a spam thing and an error in the post office. I can't count how many things I got for my husbands ex years and several moves later.
(One of them was PattiLovesAdam&William) (William is her sons name, Patti is the new girl and Adam is the Ex)
It is peculiar bordering on creepy, but unfortunately it won't hold in court if your friend thinks this would decrease the amount of paternal custody. The court would take into account things more grave than this, for example, if the child is exposed to inappropriate things (like sex, with a proof), or is abused.
Your friend should just talk to her ex about it. Just bring up the junk mail she is getting. Seems like a reasonable thing to ask and will be thousands of dollars cheaper than having their lawyers talk about it .
It really might not be intentional. It might be a spam thing and an error in the post office. I can't count how many things I got for my husbands ex years and several moves later.
The issue is, her ex never lived with her at her parents house in other words he never received mail there. She just got a Step Mom magazine in this girls name yesterday!!! This girl seems to want to rub it in that her ex is with her now. (even though my friend doesnt care obviously. She never once approached any girl she suspected was talking to the ex). My friend is worried this girl is brainwashing her son into thinking he's going to have a step mom. (I just found out her ex is out of town so he hasnt seen his son yet so they havent been able to talk)
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sounds like drama. She should ignore it and not feed it. I'm with Mattie. Your friend would be wise to not freak out and just talk things out with the ex. That is, if she wants to keep it civil. Has the ex bf dated much before? How did she feel about those girlfriends?
This girl seems to want to rub it in that her ex is with her now. (even though my friend doesnt care obviously. She never once approached any girl she suspected was talking to the ex). My friend is worried this girl is brainwashing her son into thinking he's going to have a step mom. (I just found out her ex is out of town so he hasnt seen his son yet so they havent been able to talk)
