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Apparently this mom is getting a lot of criticism for this. Thoughts?
They seem more well-off than most people, and maybe a little out of touch to the true sacrifices a lot of people make. Other than that, I don't find her story to be all that unique. Don't we all make sacrifices? Don't a lot of people make a financial plan and determine how many kids they can afford? I don't pity her at all. I don't know if that's what she was after. We all make choices in life. She's making hers. End of story.
Odd article. She can afford a dream house but not a 3rd child? Maybe I am picturing a dream house that is my dream house and not her dream house - a normal 4 br/2.5ba.
We have spent the least amount of money on our 3rd child. We already had everything (e.g., crib, baby gear, etc.). Our 3rd kid was a different sex than our 1st 2 kids. So for her clothes, I just got all of my niece's hand me downs.
I understand there are long term expenses that will arise, but the author brags about how diligent and organized she and her husband are about money and their future. If she cannot to afford to budget in future expenses of a 3rd child they must be living paycheck to paycheck for their dream house also. The house seems more like a nightmare to be such an overarching influence on her happiness.
They scrupulously saved and bought secondhand in order to have their luxury dream home, but accidentally forgot to have room to grow. Kids can't share a bedroom? And that powder room is for GUESTS. Heaven forbid the meticulous plans mean the butler's pantry is knocked out to make a bigger family room or something.
I'm not sure if I consider that a sacrifice really. Nobody says a couple needs to have 1, 2 or 5 kids at all. It's a personal decision that two people need to make on their own and outside of that, it's nobody else's business.
If they want to have 1 child and buy a nice house and drive a Mercedes, that's their call. If they want to buy a cheap fixer upper to support 5 kids...that's their call as well.
I don't see a big deal with their choice. They have a certain lifestyle envisioned, and the way to keep that lifestyle intact is to stop at two kids. Their decision, their choice, their business.
I think the article blows it over the top a little bit in the way it's worded. I have plenty of friends who debated that 3rd child and mulled it over and decided their way for whatever reasons.
Last edited by BostonMike7; 07-01-2015 at 10:05 AM..
Apparently this mom is getting a lot of criticism for this. Thoughts?
They seem more well-off than most people, and maybe a little out of touch to the true sacrifices a lot of people make. Other than that, I don't find her story to be all that unique. Don't we all make sacrifices? Don't a lot of people make a financial plan and determine how many kids they can afford? I don't pity her at all. I don't know if that's what she was after. We all make choices in life. She's making hers. End of story.
I'd say she's brilliant. She wanted her dream house, and knew she could have one as long as she didn't have another child. Good for her.
Odd article. She can afford a dream house but not a 3rd child? Maybe I am picturing a dream house that is my dream house and not her dream house - a normal 4 br/2.5ba.
We have spent the least amount of money on our 3rd child. We already had everything (e.g., crib, baby gear, etc.). Our 3rd kid was a different sex than our 1st 2 kids. So for her clothes, I just got all of my niece's hand me downs.
I understand there are long term expenses that will arise, but the author brags about how diligent and organized she and her husband are about money and their future. If she cannot to afford to budget in future expenses of a 3rd child they must be living paycheck to paycheck for their dream house also. The house seems more like a nightmare to be such an overarching influence on her happiness.
I was thinking that, too. If things are that tight, maybe they didn't budget all that well.
I don't see how she made "a huge sacrifice to buy her dream home", she specifically says they bought the house last year and have been enjoying it ever since. She just realized that to keep her current lifestyle she cannot have another child. So I do not think there is a sacrifice there, this is simply an informed decision. A choice. There is nothing physically preventing them from having that 3rd child, but they know what it entails to do so and they made a choice not to.
Sounds like a smart couple who have planned well over the course of their marriage. Sorry the woman is having doubts.
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