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I'm turning 30 in six months and have never had any desire to have children. I'm in a relationship with an older women who is not able to have kids. However, circumstances change and if I were to get with someone younger and have kids down the line, I'd worry about being too old! I think I've decided that if I haven't had kids by 35 (40 at the latest), I'm just going to accept the fact I will never have them. I don't want to be that old guy in his late 50s-60s sending a kid to college.
Did you ever feel like you were too old for kids and then tabled the idea of having them at all or having more?
I adopted my first child at age 40 and my second (and last) at age 43. In terms of having the energy required to raise children, I do kind of wish that I had gotten them sooner, as much as 10 years earlier. But that's not how things worked out. Besides, I simply can't imagine not having the two exact specific kids that I got. Things happen for a reason, and I was obviously meant to wait until I was older before becoming a father.
My husband is an older father. He doesn't seem old or fretting about how old he will be when they graduate whatever. Its silly in my opinion to worry about that.
On the other hand, I am in my late 30s now and, although I do want another child, I feel "too old" to start over. I just don't have the energy to chase a toddler like I used to, or be up all night. That and health issues with later pregnancies, or the struggle to adopt at my age, it just isn't really worth it to me. Someday I will likely foster more children though.
My G/F and I are both 34. One child each. I'd like to consider the thought of one more, but we also don't want to be dealing with a teenager at age 60 either.
My uncle is going through this. He is 60 and his oldest is only 16. He will be well into his 60s by the time she finishes college. IMO, that's old
That is my situation, my young one will be 17 in a few weeks.
If the truth be known having a teenager keeps me "young" and forces me to be on my toes. My cohorts are all talking about retirement and moving to "55+ communities". I suppose that's fine if riding 3-wheeled bikes and hanging out at the "community clubhouse" is your cup of tea. I prefer having young people around the house having fun and laughing.
Honestly, I was a much better parent in my fifties than I was in my thirties.
At the time I met my husband, when he was 35, he wasn't convinced he'd get married or have kids. He just didn't think it was likely.
He was 36 when we had our first together.
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