Grandparents cancel trip to visit

[LowonLuck]

Originally Posted by ss20ts

I honestly would not be asking grandparents who live hundreds of miles away to babysit. I would ask local friends particularly your children's friend's parents - people who know your children.

There's probably something really going on with the grandparents and they're not ready to tell you. They didn't want to ruin the whole trip because of what's going on. One of them is probably sick. Your husband should have a serious conversation with them and make sure they're really ok.

I agree with this. When I go away my kids do sometimes go stay with my parents, but for the most part, they would rather go stay at my best friends house because her children are the same ages. I would never ask someone to travel long distance to come watch my kids.

[chiluvr1228]

Originally Posted by germaine2626

I agree that there is "more to the story". Whether your in laws are just too old to handle your children, or your children are too "out of control" and they are afraid to tell you or their finances are bad and FIL had to get a job to help with expenses or there are health needs that they are not sharing with you, or something else, you do not know.

BTW, you do know that you are extremely, extremely lucky to have in-laws who will fly out and babysit for you? I'm almost 65 years old and I can not think of even one friend, co-worker, or relative who had grandparents who were both willing and able to provide that service.

Me either and my mother lived in the same town, on the same street for awhile when my kids were very young. She told my sister and I when she moved from Long Island to Florida where we lived that she wasn't coming down to be a free babysitter and she stuck to it.

[Jstarling]

Originally Posted by modc

Harpaint I think you are right. There does seem some disconnect between grandma vs grandpa. Grandpa doesn't talk much on the phone but maybe I should talk to him about the kids coming in the summer and make sure that he is in board with it. Maybe there is some miscommunication between them. I guess I just assume that both of them are in agreement when my mother in law says when they can come out or that the kids can come.

Or I could talk to both of them on the phone over skype with my husband. Maybe do it in a few days . I could Do it before the kids talk to them with kids not in the room so no ones feelings get hurt.

This is very helpful- thank you for your insight.

I think it is time to get your own mom on board rather than plotting about your in laws.