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Originally Posted by Stagemomma
I'm most certainly not going to give up on my family.
We can and do have separate vacations. Youngest went to Ireland with me for a week before Covid and we did just fine together.
Oldest has been working at a summer camp for 6 years in a row (minus one year for covid) and is therefore unavailable to go on vacations. Twice I went to visit her at camp and both times she was sick and exhausted and too tired to do anything fun. This is all by her choice. she is unsure about returning to camp this summer as she is a bit burned out on it and has missed out on so much family time as a result. She just doesn't seem to know how to find a balance between burning the candle at both ends at work and enjoying her down time.
Oldest has invited me to chaperone a school trip to London next year and I'm taking her up on it. The trip is highly structured so there will be no chances for us to disagree on what to do next. I will have some time on my own while the students are in workshops but I will be able to be a helpful chaperone most of the time. I think that will be a good trip for us.
I am taking youngest to Italy as soon as covid allows.
We have no other plans to vacation together on the horizon but I'm never going to stop trying to keep my little family together.
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Hmmm, this response was in response to someone suggesting you vacation separately, not never see your kids. This response has sort of a panicked tone.
I wonder if you're focusing on the wrong things. It sounds like you want the 3 of you together for YOU, not because it's a good idea for the family unit or them. It fills some need for you to call together.
On this most recent trip, your daughters are old enough that if one wants to sleep in, you can leave her behind while you and the other one do your adventures. I don't know why the one whining about sandals couldn't get an Uber to go to Walmart if she felt like you weren't picking up the hint.
You don't need to be worrying about empathy and you don't need to be crying. Instead provide logical, practical advice to help them get through the moment.
Don't make them be together.
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