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Anxiety serms to have become a huge excuse for not doing anything you don't want to these days. Anxiety is normal to a degree. Obviously for some people it's crippling, but she needs a doctor's diagnosis, not ours.
Anxiety serms to have become a huge excuse for not doing anything you don't want to these days. Anxiety is normal to a degree. Obviously for some people it's crippling, but she needs a doctor's diagnosis, not ours.
I wonder if she is using drugs.
Yes, which is the exact reason why people who are legitimately suffering, (perhaps like this girl) , are not taken seriously.
"Victim mentality" is the new thing in this world, and can become quite profitable. In the meantime, folks who need actual help are discarded.
If you don't want to be responsible for her for life, you really shouldn't have a) moved her in, and b) waited until she was 18 to be over it. As a minor, her parents would have had to be responsible for her and take her in OR the state would have taken over. It sounds like she wasn't in any real "danger," but you just decided living with you would be somehow more beneficial to her... Oops!
Personally, I wouldn't buy any excuses. She isn't working or going to school because she'd rather not and doesn't have to. Please keep us updated; I'm curious how this will turn out!
Why did you let someone who dropped out of school and had done nothing in the years since to move in at all? You should have laid down the law from day one.
She needs to leave.
The thing is… if you have to lay down the law, then you then take on the burden of enforcing that law, too. I have a wastrel sibling-in-law who we would not take in under any circumstance because she has zero interest in doing anything productive with her life; if we were to take her under the condition that she have a job, she’d take a job just long enough to get settled in and then either quit or get fired a few months later. If we reminder of the conditions she’d drag her feet and eventually get another job, only to repeat the same cycle over and over again. No thanks. It’s one thing to take in a family member who is a productive member of society and just needs a place to stay; it’s another to enable someone who endeavors to do nothing more than suck up oxygen and resources while the rest of us are at work and/or school all day.
It's probably anxiety and depression, don't blame her considering. She is literally frozen with fear and can not act. Make an appointment with a therapist of some kind and bring her there.
If course I'm guessing here but could be one explanation.
Does she go out at all? Does she keep up her hygiene? Even getting out to take a community activity class like pottery just to get her out of the house might help. She needs to understand she can't stay locked up in her room forever.
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