Tough Love And Teenagers (ADHD, teens, out of control, divorced)
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What have you tried to do "that works" for those out of control teenagers ---that think that they know "EVERYTHING"?
One that tries to come and go as he pleases? Of course, he towers over you in size and strength. This would be a 16 year old boy that I am talking about. We can't do a time out and spanking isn't an option in this day and time we live in. Says that he isn't a christian.
Ha! I just started a similar thread at the same time- must have been sharing the same thought bubble.
I have always said that by the time you WANT to spank them, they are bigger than you, so you can't.
Of course you know about restricting privileges, but to some kids, it's worth it and they will cntinue to do what they please. I would strongly suggest family counseling. With the right counselor, you'll see dramatic improvement. Since kids are all so different, what works for one may not work with the other. For instance, with my brother, my parents had to tell him exactly when to come in at night. With me, they had to tell me to use my judgement.
I work at an agency that provides free counseling for teens and can't tell you the changes that we see. It stinks to be a teen a lot of the time (and to be the parent of a teen, as well) and just having that outside person to talk to can make all the difference. I could find a similar agency in your area if you pm me.
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Originally Posted by RAINBOWS
What have you tried to do "that works" for those out of control teenagers ---that think that they know "EVERYTHING"?
One that tries to come and go as he pleases? Of course, he towers over you in size and strength. This would be a 16 year old boy that I am talking about. We can't do a time out and spanking isn't an option in this day and time we live in. Says that he isn't a christian.
On a road to nowhere quick. Very devastating!!
Last edited by Magnolia Bloom; 02-15-2007 at 07:05 PM..
I realize it's brain-killing, but I am addicted to The Housewives of Orange County or whatever the title of the show is.
I watched the latest episode and that new lady, the one who was rich, husband blew it, divorced, they went "poor".... well, her daughter gets her driver's license and drives the car. She has an accident the day after she gets the license. So...
The next day her real dad takes a 16 year old girl to the local BMW dealership and buys her a new BMW!!! Oh, that's not good enough....she wants power seats too, so the first one she settled on gets traded for a pricier version. When she pulls up to the house her mother is renting, her mother asks her, "How are you going to pay for everything?" (meaning insurance and maintenance I suppose). The spoiled daughter says: "Oh, daddy's paying all that".
I find that sickening.
THANK YOU FOR THE INSPIRATION HEREINFLA!!! There is hope for me yet!!
He is a GREAT kid... I really don't want to lose him to bad influences... I forgot to mention...He is ADHD and he tested positive for marijuana! He presently lives with his dad and he is at his witts end. I get him every other weekend.... ITS REALLY HARD. My two girls are in shock by his behavior every two weeks..they are correcting his disrepect...WOW! What a circus!
MoMark,
All I can say is...WOW! I don't watch that show, but I have heard about it. I would try anything at this point to wake and shake people up a bit..........
BUT WHAT DO I KNOW...I'm from the "Old School"...
Which reminds me...WHY DID THEY TAKE RELIGION AND DISCIPLINE OUT OF THE SCHOOLS??? It worked for our generation!!
THANK YOU FOR THE INSPIRATION HEREINFLA!!! There is hope for me yet!!
He is a GREAT kid... I really don't want to lose him to bad influences... I forgot to mention...He is ADHD and he tested positive for marijuana! He presently lives with his dad and he is at his witts end. I get him every other weekend.... ITS REALLY HARD. My two girls are in shock by his behavior every two weeks..they are correcting his disrepect...WOW! What a circus!
Just hang on and don't give up on him. If you and his dad can/are working together to co-parent and both on the same page (ie- double teaming him, your son would say!) and get the counseling, your son will come around. You're saying that he's a great kid, so it sounds like he has a good foundation. He just needs to start feeling that he's great too, again!
Just hang on and don't give up on him. If you and his dad can/are working together to co-parent and both on the same page (ie- double teaming him, your son would say!) and get the counseling, your son will come around. You're saying that he's a great kid, so it sounds like he has a good foundation. He just needs to start feeling that he's great too, again!
Thanks for all your help!! I will be waiting for those referrals
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