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People treat teenaged boys as if they were truly monsters. I feel bad for my kids when people do that. I wonder if people take the time to think that every single grown man in the world was a teenaged boy at one time. Surely they aren't ALL evil perverts.
I am just curious about whether you would allow a male to babysit your child?
Of course, you can tell I have three boys( 2, 13, and 17).My middle son has a steady babysitting job and gets paid very well!
The mother works with my dh and she has referred some of her friends to my son. All of the his babysitting jobs have sons to watch. Our son is great with kids and very mature.
My dh and I were talking and I said that I wonder if it really matters to parents if they have a female or male babysitting. I said that I really believe that MANY parents would feel very uncomfortable leaving a male to babysit.
( Its that old stereotype even though we know females can do harm too.)
Would it matter to you what gender you had to babysit? Would it matter if you had a daughter and a male was babysitting?
Why would you allow it? If you said you wouldn't why not?
Has society's ( our) thinking changed or is still MALES should not be left alone in this manner?
I can't wait to hear everyone's thoughts especially since I have boys.
This is sad that this question has to be asked. Because in asking it we are saying " will this male babysitter harm my daughter in any way" which to me is stereotyping, meaning to me not all males are abusers. Even females can abuse, in any way. I would allow my child with a male sitter and I have. I do make sure I screen him as I would a female. I call all references (which I find a lot of parents now a day are lazy about) It does not matter to me if you are male or female, black or white. All I care about is my child is being looked after with the same care I would or at least pretty darn close.
Yes, boys and men are people and difinitely NOT monsters BUT if they are not family or extremely close friends and have been for a very long time they are NOT babysitters to my children.
Yes, boys and men are people and difinitely NOT monsters BUT if they are not family or extremely close friends and have been for a very long time they are NOT babysitters to my children.
For many reasons I am just not comfortable. I don't really need any other reason
Some people have an age requirement, some have a sex requirement. Some have both or more or none. Simple dimple!
While in the workplace those reasons might not be legal or ethical, in MY home with MY children I would feel safer and most comfortable with a RESPONSIBLE female at least 18 who is cpr certified and who has experience and of whom I have known all her life.
However, these requirments have not come into play yet. I have only needed my mother/father or husband's mother/father to watch my daughter.
For many reasons I am just not comfortable. I don't really need any other reason
Some people have an age requirement, some have a sex requirement. Some have both or more or none. Simple dimple!
While in the workplace those reasons might not be legal or ethical, in MY home with MY children I would feel safer and most comfortable with a RESPONSIBLE female at least 18 who is cpr certified and who has experience and of whom I have known all her life.
However, these requirments have not come into play yet. I have only needed my mother/father or husband's mother/father to watch my daughter.
Again why? you say you need no reason, but if you are to argue against it, is there no reason needed? You can not say I do not like such and such with no reason be hind it, People are asking, you are answering, but with no reason?
Again why? you say you need no reason, but if you are to argue against it, is there no reason needed? You can not say I do not like such and such with no reason be hind it, People are asking, you are answering, but with no reason?
BECAUSE IT MAKES ME UNCOMFORTABLE!!!!
Is it against the law to not want a male to watch my children? Do people interview more than one person and decide they like one or the other?
I don't have to justify to you or anyone else. They are my children not yours or anyone elses. I decide who watches them and who does't.
Is it against the law to not want a male to watch my children? Do people interview more than one person and decide they like one or the other?
I don't have to justify to you or anyone else. They are my children not yours or anyone elses. I decide who watches them and who does't.
Wow I had no idea this was a touchy subject for you. Perhaps you have your reasons, but you obviously do not want to share why, and I respect that. But I do not think I warrented being shouted at.
Wow I had no idea this was a touchy subject for you. Perhaps you have your reasons, but you obviously do not want to share why, and I respect that. But I do not think I warrented being shouted at.
I wasn't shouting I was EMPHASIZING.
I don't mind sharing I was just making the point that it really doesn't matter the reason since it is the parent's decision and nothing illegal is being done in deciding against a boy/male babysitter.
Maybe men don't commit more sexual crimes in general, but that's what I see in the news. perhaps it isn't "strange" or questionable or just plain agianst the grain for a man/male to WANT to babysit or be "nanny" but in MY family NONE of the men are like that and I'm just not used to it or comfortable with it.
Call it wrong or un-called for or whatever but it's still the parent's choice
I don't mind sharing I was just making the point that it really doesn't matter the reason since it is the parent's decision and nothing illegal is being done in deciding against a boy/male babysitter.
Maybe men don't commit more sexual crimes in general, but that's what I see in the news. perhaps it isn't "strange" or questionable or just plain agianst the grain for a man/male to WANT to babysit or be "nanny" but in MY family NONE of the men are like that and I'm just not used to it or comfortable with it.
Call it wrong or un-called for or whatever but it's still the parent's choice
I would never call it wrong or uncalled for I was just wondering. You have a right to your choice as everyone else, I was just curious as to WHY you did not want a male. I was in no way putting you down etc... just Curious
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