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My son will be visiting on the east coast this summer and would like to drive up to Florida with a friend looking at colleges along the way. My son and the friend are 17 with the friend being a really responsible bright kid. My son is not the most responsible nor mature 17 year old so I am torn. If he makes Honor Roll this quarter and has a job to pay for the trip, he would like to be rewarded with this trip. What do you all think?
I would reward him if he meets his suggested requirements---especially since his frined is a responsible kid.
My son has always been more responsible and mature than his friends, and he managed to always keep them from getting into trouble.
You're going to have to let go next year anyway. You can't expect him to go off to college and suddenly learn how to manage being unsupervised.
This college trip sounds like a productive way to practice independence.
Thank you Hopes. Good advice and so true. The kid still sleeps with what use to be a stuffed doggie! I used to ask jokingly if he planned on going to college with this creature, but now that it's near I think he will take it!! Anyway, thanks.
Thank you Hopes. Good advice and so true. The kid still sleeps with what use to be a stuffed doggie! I used to ask jokingly if he planned on going to college with this creature, but now that it's near I think he will take it!! Anyway, thanks.
Until he's 18 he is still legally your responsibility. Just saying
With both being 17, there might be a problem with them getting motel rooms to sleep in. They'd better be prepared with a tent and supplies. Even a campsite might be a problem.
Is he responsible or not? Too many people confuse "smart" or "honor roll" with "responsible". Not necessarily the case. You indicated he wasn't "the most" responsible kid but then tied the trip to grades or honor roll? Why not tie it to "responsible" behavior? I don't think it's fair to put his more responsible friend in the position of being "the" responsible one... Also, I agree with NE - under 18 might very well have difficulty checking into a motel.
My son will be visiting on the east coast this summer and would like to drive up to Florida with a friend looking at colleges along the way. My son and the friend are 17 with the friend being a really responsible bright kid. My son is not the most responsible nor mature 17 year old so I am torn. If he makes Honor Roll this quarter and has a job to pay for the trip, he would like to be rewarded with this trip. What do you all think?
Are you on the opposite coast and are you ok with him looking at colleges without you and on the other side of the country?
I have 2 teens very close in age and in the past 10 months we have travelled the east coast (we live on the east coast) looking at colleges.
I can't imagine not sharing this experience with them.
No, for me, I wouldn't allow one of my teens. You know your child...
I never saw the benefit of early college tours. I told my three to research the schools based on programs, size, rankings, etc, and then apply wherever they wanted. Once they had acceptance letters, then we would arrange to visit. It was much more cost effective, and nobody has regretted their choice.
But, to the OP, besides the problem of hotels (which might be settled if one of the kids has use of a credit card) 17 strikes me as awfully young to go off on a long road trip. I don't think I could be comfortable with it.
My son will be visiting on the east coast this summer and would like to drive up to Florida with a friend looking at colleges along the way. My son and the friend are 17 with the friend being a really responsible bright kid. My son is not the most responsible nor mature 17 year old so I am torn. If he makes Honor Roll this quarter and has a job to pay for the trip, he would like to be rewarded with this trip. What do you all think?
You are responsible for him until he is 18 years old. If he goes on this trip and kills somebody (accidentally, of course), you could lose everything you own in a lawsuit.
He can go on all the trips his little heart desires for the next 80 years or so, what's the rush?
Is he responsible or not? Too many people confuse "smart" or "honor roll" with "responsible". Not necessarily the case. You indicated he wasn't "the most" responsible kid but then tied the trip to grades or honor roll?
She didn't tie it to grades and honor roll. He is the one who proposed that.
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Originally Posted by Mattie
17 strikes me as awfully young to go off on a long road trip. I don't think I could be comfortable with it.
He'll be 18 in less than a year, possibly within a few months for all we know. Plus, if he decides to go to college there, he'll be making that road trip soon enough.
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