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I agree with this post.
People are superficial and it comes out in all so many ways.
No need to get angry.
You seem to be independent minded and that is a good thing.
If it really upsets you then tell them to get in a box.
And when they respond they won't or don't want to.
Then let them know you don't like to be told to get into a box either.
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Originally Posted by Tallysmom
Here's the thing -- to most people, life is supposed to follow a path. You are born, you grow up, you get married, you buy a house, you have some kids, you retire, you have some fun and then you croak.... and there is something very calming and reassuring about that "natural order of life".
When you don't follow the norm, you upset their apple cart. In our case, we are happily married and have no children. And at 50, it generally means to a lot of people that something went wrong, and they have the good graces to not mention it.
We let them think it, because it's none of their business we didn't want kids. But when I was in my thirties I had a lot of pressure about not having kids. And most of ii from the people who had the WORST trouble with their kids later on.
So what you have to understand is -- doing what other people do reassures those people they are right in their decisions. But getting angry about their decisions doesn't help. Just stand strong knowing that for you renting is perfect. and it's okay to tell them that, with a good dose of humor....
I do remember one time hubs was playing with a baby and thoroughly enjoying himself, as the rest of the guys were talking on and on about sports, which hubby could care less about. One woman said to me that it was a sin to deprive my husband of a child, when it was SO clear he loved children.
I yelled over to hubs -- Honey, when can I have a baby? He said -- When you find a new husband. THIS one I can give back when he gets cranky or messy.....
I smiled at the woman and said -- we really don't want children. It's not that we don't like children, or think we'd be awful parents, or had horrible childhoods -- we've never wanted children.
They either get it or they don't. And your real friends will stay, whether they get it or not....
I'm quite sure no one gives a flying damn if you buy a home or live in a tent. If it was said, it's just conversation, nothing to get upset about.
You're making a big deal out of nothing...! Chill out and take in a movie.....................
I don't really understand why a single guy with no family should buy a house anyway. My ex bought a 4 bedroom house last year mostly for the $ 8,000 tax credit - now he's being offered a job 3,000 miles away and he is faced with the problem of finding someone to rent the house out to.
2 of my girlfriends bought houses for the same reason and now regret that they didn't wait longer to save up for a bigger downpayment.
I can totally understand your frustration. It's none of anybody's business.
Here's the thing -- to most people, life is supposed to follow a path. You are born, you grow up, you get married, you buy a house, you have some kids, you retire, you have some fun and then you croak.... and there is something very calming and reassuring about that "natural order of life".
When you don't follow the norm, you upset their apple cart. In our case, we are happily married and have no children. And at 50, it generally means to a lot of people that something went wrong, and they have the good graces to not mention it.
We let them think it, because it's none of their business we didn't want kids. But when I was in my thirties I had a lot of pressure about not having kids. And most of ii from the people who had the WORST trouble with their kids later on.
So what you have to understand is -- doing what other people do reassures those people they are right in their decisions. But getting angry about their decisions doesn't help. Just stand strong knowing that for you renting is perfect. and it's okay to tell them that, with a good dose of humor....
I do remember one time hubs was playing with a baby and thoroughly enjoying himself, as the rest of the guys were talking on and on about sports, which hubby could care less about. One woman said to me that it was a sin to deprive my husband of a child, when it was SO clear he loved children.
I yelled over to hubs -- Honey, when can I have a baby? He said -- When you find a new husband. THIS one I can give back when he gets cranky or messy.....
I smiled at the woman and said -- we really don't want children. It's not that we don't like children, or think we'd be awful parents, or had horrible childhoods -- we've never wanted children.
They either get it or they don't. And your real friends will stay, whether they get it or not....
This entire post was great! I just gave you a reputation point.
Maybe you should get married... you aren't getting any younger... lol.... jk....
Usually that would require dating, and from many of the OP's posts, he hasn't been very successful there, either...!!
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I just gave you a reputation point. 
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