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Yes and i'm sure these sister did not become successful all by their lonesome.
Between birth and adulthood MOST parents drop hundreds of thousands of dollars on their kids. Not even talking about college tuition.
So in no way can these sister all of a sudden cry "woe is me"
Parents didn’t help with college. Taught both hard work and the value of a dollar. Kids don’t cost hundreds of thousands of dollars from birth to 18 if one has good employer paid health insurance and Normal life is lived
I’m actually going to track my kids expenses from birth to 18. Will be a fun little project
Well, I suppose the whole argument could be laid to rest if the one who whines the most gets the most. Nothing else would satisfy them as "fair", right?
No loans. No grudges. Similar salaries. Good relationships. No other issues.
Fair??
I think absolutely not
It's absolutely "entitled". Once you use the word "fair" it infers that one person is "owed" exactly what the other person got.
An inheritance is not "owed" anyone. If the daughters had a "good" relationship, with no so called grudges, then the correct response would be "Thank you God for this wonderful gift" period. NOT "my sister got more than me".
when my dad died, my baby brother got a very valuable NYC apartment. My other siblings did not whine "oh he got a house and we didn't". We already had established families in 3 different states, no one was moving back to NYC. We did not say "Oh he should sell it and evenly divide the proceeds so everything can be "fair". We took the gifts that were left to us and mourned a wonderful dad.
Again an "inheritance" is a gift not a right. there is no fairness involved, a person has the right to give what they want, to whom they want.
Once people start complaining about "fairness" it's because they feel like they are "supposed" to get something.
There are different ways to look at it the situation. You can look at it as two families, or you can look at it as seven individuals. I don't think either option is more valid than the other. Now, by taking the parents out of the example, I'm hoping that it makes it easier to consider the children as individuals.
From grandma's perspective, she might have her own special one-to-one relationship with each grandchild, not just a second-degree association through the parent. Each grandchild is someone that she loves separately, and each grandchild is someone she wants to take care of... equally.
Fair would be zero to everybody. That's the only way to guarantee that one party won't have the perception that another received more than they did.
You didn’t respond to my alternate scenario
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